China Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Nadia Bokody: Surprising truth about how long sex should last I once rejected a guy in the middle of sex. He was a lot younger than me, and very attractive; the kind of attractiveness befitting a Disney prince – with an impossibly chiselled jawline and thick hair that flopped charmingly over his forehead. It was quite the ego trip, having a man whose body looked like it should be sprawled across a Calvin Klein billboard in my bed. I found myself half-wishing the awkward teenage version of myself could see me now. Unfortunately, it turned out we had very different ideas of how the evening would unfold. I was prepared for a hot half-hour rumble in the sheets and a good night’s sleep, and he was evidently committed to going longer than a Twitch streamer hopped up on Red Bull and Tide Pods. An hour-and-a-half in, I terminated our sex-a-thon. An all-night bang-fest may have been vaguely alluring in my 20s, but post-30, the only prolonged physical activity my body’s up for is lifting Doritos to my mouth while watching Marie Kondo in my Snuggie. This appears to be the same sentiment of a woman who took to TikTok last month to ask, “How long is sex supposed to last?”, after getting into a debate with a group of younger women. In the video, which has since gone viral, sparking global discussion and garnering over four million views, she says, “I was talking to these young girls here, and they were like, “If he ain’t going for an hour..” A HOUR?! Who is having sex for that long? Just straight intercourse? For an hour? No, ma’am. Fifteen, 20 minutes, tops. After that, get the f**k off of me, Sir.” A cursory scroll through the tens of thousands of comments the video has amassed suggests most women agree. “After 15 minutes I’m making grocery lists,” joked one female commenter. “AN HOUR?! I’m 42. It would take me two weeks to recover from that mess. Fifteen minutes. Foreplay included,” chimed in another. Many of the commenters also posited a link between duration and sexual performance. As one woman put it, “If it takes an hour for either of you to get what you came to get, there’s a problem.” But some were less convinced – another lamented, “I’m sad for all of you. Been with my man 20 years and we go hours. Like, two or three hours, and have a blast.” So then, who’s right? That depends on who you ask. In 1948, sex researcher Alfred Kinsey infamously concluded three quarters of men finish after two minutes, but a 2008 paper published in The Journal Of Sexual Medicine insisted the average sexual encounter lasts between three and seven minutes. Another study found wild variations, ranging from just 33 seconds to almost an hour. Interestingly, while research overwhelmingly indicates women require more time than men to orgasm during partnered sex, it’s typically men, not women, who report wanting nookie to last longer. This may, in part at least, be due to the influence of porn. Research suggests at least a quarter of young people aged 18 to 24 rely on it as a form of sex education. And given its emphasis on enduring erections and marathon sex sessions, it’s plausible a man might feel he’s come up short if he hasn’t surpassed the 10-minute mark. Click on the link for the full article Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chachie Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I browsed the article but did not see a distinction between actual intercourse and "sex with foreplay." I'm in my fifties now and if I don't achieve "the goal" within 10 minutes of intercourse, it's time to check whats on tv. However, foreplay can be a welcome longevity enhancer before the actual sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadySkinsFan Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 As someone who's experienced both heterosexual and Lesbian sex experiences, Lesbian sex consists almost entirely of foreplay activity unless dildos are used for short periods of time. I'm speaking of actual Lesbian sex activity, not pornified Lesbian sex manufactured for the male gaze. Edited to add: Lesbian sex activity can last hours due to the foreplay activities of Lesbian sex. Actual penis in vagina sex duration for short periods of time are usual, pornified longer periods of PIV sex duration is due to the editing process. I am concerned about the influence of porn as sex education on our young women and men. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Sinister Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 2 or 3 hours? Maybe for retirees or teenagers. People got (other) **** to do 😂 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Momma There Goes That Man Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 No right answer, really just depends on the people involved. Some women enjoy when you take them on an hour + long journey. It doesn’t have to be an hour of straight pounding though. I can see why that’s not popular. Mix it up. Toys, oral, make out sessions, moving between rooms. Go back and forth between those things. Have fun with it. Once they’ve had all they can take, you finish up and call it a night. then some women just want to go for a few minutes, get theirs and then are ready to it’s really just about knowing your partner and having an open and fun understanding of what they like. Think too many people are selfish. If both of you come into sex focused on taking care of the other rather than yours, it’ll turn out pretty good some want both just at different times based on whatever mood they’re in. That’s why communication and understanding in sex is key. Picking up on subtle signs to tell you what they want without having to awkwardly ask. Edit: follow me for my new sex advice segment called: Just the Tips . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Springfield Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I read the whole article and I did not, in fact, find the surprising truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d0ublestr0ker0ll Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I dated a woman who wanted to keep going after I finished. I went from woo! to eww! in the span of a minute. Clean yoself up and I'll play Minesweeper with one hand while the other is sweeping your mine. She was an all-dayer. On the flip side, I've had two girlfriends who demanded we get drunk before we went for it...then asked me if I was "close" 15 minutes in. Nah ya boozebrains, I'm farther than Andromeda. You're lucky you ain't gettin the floppy disc after all them shots. One of those girls liked to get off once, the other one was about six times on average. After that they wondering what errands they gotta run tomorrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simmsy Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 The longest I've ever gone is two and a half hours, that was way too long. The shortest, well, I didn't make it past foreplay (passed out in the middle of it). So I would say the correct time is somewhere between zero and 150 minutes...give or take. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fergasun Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Married for awhile so take this as it is. There are many times when I feel like sex is the least unique or special part of our relationship at this point. It wasn't like that early on. It still is important, but there are so many facets to relationships and family beyond that one thing. 20 year old me would prolly like a word... but he's too busy watching nrop.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renegade7 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I agree with knowing your partner isn't a porn star to begin with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlvinWaltonIsMyBoy Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 As long as I pay upfront, she doesn’t seem to care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momma There Goes That Man Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 1 hour ago, d0ublestr0ker0ll said: On the flip side, I've had two girlfriends who demanded we get drunk before we went for it damn bro, how ugly are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Califan007 The Constipated Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 In all of my relationships, there was never a set time preference. It all depended on what mood we were in, what our sessions consisted of, time of day, location, etc, etc. It also started long before we were nekkid lol...the build-up to the foreplay was always enjoyable, so once we reached the main course we were damn hungry. Uh, so to speak. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoCalMike Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I've never been interested in going "all night long" as they say, but in my younger days it would be semi-normal to do the deed more than once a day. It's really what you and your partner prefer and enjoy, I don't think there is a "right" answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skinsmarydu Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 1 hour ago, Renegade7 said: I agree with knowing your partner isn't a porn star to begin with. But pretending to be can be fun...but what do I know anymore? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CousinsCowgirl84 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 An hour? If it takes longer than 15 minutes I’m done. Sorry guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaceman Spiff Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I'm really here to hear @Kosher Ham's tall tales of exploits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skinsmarydu Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 3 minutes ago, CousinsCowgirl84 said: An hour? If it takes longer than 15 minutes I’m done. Sorry guys. Some of us have yet to figure out if you really mean those last two words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaceman Spiff Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Just now, skinsmarydu said: Some of us have yet to figure out if you really mean those last two words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CousinsCowgirl84 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Not following? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skinsmarydu Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Great topic for a Monday night, amirite? 1 minute ago, CousinsCowgirl84 said: Not following? No one can. You're alone on this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CousinsCowgirl84 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 2 minutes ago, skinsmarydu said: Great topic for a Monday night, amirite? No one can. You're alone on this one. I mean, I assumed it’s an insult because that’s all you ever seem to have, but I still would like to know how Im being insulted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skinsmarydu Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 1 minute ago, CousinsCowgirl84 said: I mean, I assumed it’s an insult because that’s all you ever seem to have, but I still would like to know how Im being insulted. It was a joke. Never an attack or an insult, I would never do that. Honestly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CousinsCowgirl84 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Just now, skinsmarydu said: It was a joke. Never an attack or an insult, I would never do that. Honestly. ok well thank you I am still just confused. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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