Sticksboi05 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 This or just drink enough so that you won't care what they say. Liquid courage is always a back up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Brave Little Toaster Oven Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 That's the day after Thursday, right? fun fun fun night. exactly! all girls look forward to the weekend, weekend -- just ask Ren Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosher Ham Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I think most women would find it creepy for you to be rollin' solo at a bar unless it was happy hour and you are just having a quick one and rolling out, not even paying attention to women. I am wondering where the cameras are over my shoulder, this can't be real. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Do Itch Big Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 No always means yes. Agreed also pain is pleasure. Take an asl class, class is the funnest class I ever took and there's like a 5:1 ratio of women to men in my class. Asl class=win Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IONTOP Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Alright can someone tell me how to make an alert for my Android? It needs to send me an alert for these circumstances: 1)A new thread is started in the tailgate 2)OP's screenname starts with SPJ 3)Somewhere in the original post it has "Girls" "Professional" or "Single" 4)I need the alert to override my usual "vibrate" notification and alert me with "DROP EVERYTHING YOU ARE DOING AND CANCEL YOUR PLANS TONIGHT, YOU'VE GOT A THREAD TO FOLLOW" Can anyone help me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubble Screen Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 As always you guys give great advice. I'm going to look into some activities that I might enjoy because it would be nice to have a hobby.Downloading that torrent now Joe Thanks all!!! The joining sports league advice was pretty good. However, if you suck at sports, and I'm pretty sure you do with your low self-esteem and lack of confidence, then I wouldn't go through with it. Because girls are gonna think you're a loser. What about a dating service, like someone suggested? I've never tried one before, but it might be a good place to start for you. ---------- Post added March-16th-2011 at 01:05 AM ---------- I think most women would find it creepy for you to be rollin' solo at a bar unless it was happy hour and you are just having a quick one and rolling out, not even paying attention to women. I am wondering where the cameras are over my shoulder, this can't be real. Yeah, that just screams creepy. And like ren stated, a bar is probably the worst place for a guy like this to meet women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Conn Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Yeah, the problem with the OP is that he's trying to be someone he's not. And the funny thing is that if you DID eventually meet a girl who's compatible with you at a bar, they would probably be in the middle of trying to be someone they're not as well...so why not cut out the awkwardness and the lessened chances and just meet girls at places where you'll both be comfortable just being who you really are? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iced Coffee Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 If you give me half the $75 I'd be your wing guy and we both can come away **** faced and with women. But in all seriousness, unless you are looking to hit it and thats it, I don't think the bar is the best place for long term relations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spjunkies Posted March 16, 2011 Author Share Posted March 16, 2011 If you give me half the $75 I'd be your wing guy and we both can come away **** faced and with women.But in all seriousness, unless you are looking to hit it and thats it, I don't think the bar is the best place for long term relations. The sad thing is that I AM looking to just hit for now, but if it turns into a LTR I have no problem with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Rethink what your intent is. If you go out looking to meet a girl, just to have sex with her and your feeling panicked, because you think they can sense that, you're probably right. Just think that you might make a friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 But in all seriousness, unless you are looking to hit it and thats it, I don't think the bar is the best place for long term relations. I see hear this all the time and laugh. Why on earth do people say this?! What about being at a bar negates her as a long term prospect for a person that clearly enjoys going out for a drink? You meet all kinds of women everywhere, even church. Rethink what your intent is. If you go out looking to meet a girl, just to have sex with her and your feeling panicked, because you think they can sense that, you're probably right. Just think that you might make a friend.This. If you don't believe it, unless you're a talented bull****ter, you won't be able to sell it to anyone else. Confidence is what women key in on even if they don't realize it. If you communicate fear or doubt in your voice or body language odds are you're not going to get anywhere good. (which makes sense because lets face it that comes off as creepy)Yeah, the problem with the OP is that he's trying to be someone he's not. And the funny thing is that if you DID eventually meet a girl who's compatible with you at a bar, they would probably be in the middle of trying to be someone they're not as well...so why not cut out the awkwardness and the lessened chances and just meet girls at places where you'll both be comfortable just being who you really are?Why not meet as many as possible everywhere possible? Eliminate the walls and just get to know people. Don't even think about banging them all at the start... have some pride man! Until you talk to them you can't tell if their annoying or crazy and you don't want to mess with either of those. (ok, sometimes you want to mess with crazy ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 This. If you don't believe it, unless you're a talented bull****ter, you won't be able to sell it to anyone else. Confidence is what women key in on even if they don't realize it. If you communicate fear or doubt in your voice or body language odds are you're not going to get anywhere good. (which makes sense because lets face it that comes off as creepy) That's the word I was trying not to use, but thinking it the entire time. Creepy. The two things women like is confidence and a good sense of humor. No woman is going to find you sexy, unless you can also make them feel safe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
airborneskins Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Is this thread for real? It cant be.. If it is real, then OP the first thing that you need to do is get off the message boards and go out and find friends (guys or girls) to hang out with. Dont worry about meeting "the one" right now. Just have fun. Bars are not the place to meet people. Dont get me wrong, you will find some people that are interesting, but if you are truly looking for friends, get out to other places (gyms, sports clubs, church.. Whatever floats your boat). Again, I am hoping that this thread isnt real. and just a joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 But in all seriousness, unless you are looking to hit it and thats it, I don't think the bar is the best place for long term relations. My husband met his wife at a bar in college ---------- Post added March-15th-2011 at 10:21 PM ---------- SP - Join some social sports leagues, like kickball or some other ridiculous sport. It's a blast, everyone laughs, and you get to meet a lot of people. Or get a hobby and meet women through that. Essentially, do something that's fun and takes your mind off of your "goal" of finding a woman. Whatever you do, don't throw away any money on wingwomen, wingmen, prostitutes, escorts, whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsKin26 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 As others have just said, if you're looking for something more than just a piece of ass, you shouldn't be looking in a bar. My favorite saying is you won't find true love in a bar. Usually, it's not the meeting of the minds in there, haha. ES always provides good feedback and ideas. Since you openly just want to hit it, I'm here to say if you ever need a wingman, I'm down. There's no reason to spend money on wingmen/wingwomen. I'm outside the area, but I wouldn't mind taking a bus down to wherever and doing something crazy for the sheer fun of it. I'm damn good at making anyone look good, and I don't mind fat chicks with the hot friend. I know how to handle them and not get my hands dirty. The only downer is I don't drink; however, it allows me to keep you from the beasts of the club, while coherently and eloquently expressing how epic of a person you are. You can consider this my application. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IONTOP Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 just found this site: meetup.com I know it's a good place because it even has a group for 20's & 30 year olds in SW Florida (AKA God's waiting room) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iXiBrianiXi Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Do you tie a blue ribbon to your crotch and then hit the bars? Oh God why does this board not have rep? Haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burgold Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 As someone who by nature struggles with shyness I first want to say that a lot of the advice is much easier said than done. That said, a lot of the advice is solid. Change the setting, join a club or take a class, try internet dating. The nice thing about internet dating is that you know the people you are writing to are looking and the anonymity gives you a little bit of protection. The downside is that you don't really know much about what you're getting. Then again, other than the physical what do you know about that woman you see at a bar? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thiebear Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I go to Rite Aid and hang out next to the abreva and carmex section till a prospect shows up. I know they put out. Join the local PTA at the elemetary school, lots of single moms are overstressed with such a difficult task, you can help them. If you can learn to make eye contact with total strangers as you walk around in the next week. Just open doors and say hello. Eventually the Eye contact causes you to notice a smile and then smile back with a "good morning". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stoshuaj Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 admittedly, haven't read this thread in it's entirety. On this page at least, there's been some reference to "hitting it" as your ultimate goal. if so, just pay a hook and save yourself the aggravation. if not, there's been some suggestion of joining social leagues, internet dating, etc. these are all fine and good but another consideration for you could be to find something in which you feel is worthwhile and volunteer. i.e.: humane society, little league, etc. Even if you don't make a contact, at least in the process you've done something with a tangible benefit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SackMachine Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Recreational team sports are an easy way to make friends. Just participate in something you enjoy and meet new people. If you're looking for a quick bang, show up close to last call. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thiebear Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 You live in the area? How are you not at Great Falls in the Spring/Summer on a leopard blanket and boom box just tanning with your running shorts on. Its a win for you and everyone that wanders by while the breeze blows. Dupont Circle is my guranteed lock of the week! 1-966-418-2134 at 90cents a minute if you want specific locations "THAT CAN"T FAIL"! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chachie Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are correct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lombardi's_kid_brother Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 What percentage of guys have actually picked up a woman in a bar? It has to be less than 15 percent, right? Want to meet a woman? Take a cooking class or a wine tasting class or a yoga class or an art class. You have a better chance of getting laid and will actually improve yourself as a person. And the irony of improving yourself as a person? You will develop more self-confidence which will help you meet women. If I could have cooked at age 23 the way I can now, I think I would have gotten laid every weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterMP Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Is there any environment you are comfortable talking to women (people in general)? If you play some co-ed sport, are you likely to actually have real conversations with the women on the team (or any of the men)? It seems to me you are just pretty shy and need practice generally interacting with people. Somebody else gave essentially the same advice I'd give (and as somebody that was shy). You have to practice. Start small in places where there is no pressure. Make eye contact with strangers when the situation allows. Go out of your way to do things like hold doors, but also talk to them (just saying hi, will normally get a response (probably thank you), which then you can add you're welcome and have a nice day, etc.)). No fear in something like that, it isn't like you are going to go from holding a door to anything at all. Just practice talking to people (and all people, not just pretty women). The other great way to practice is when you are a customer. They are essentially forced to talk to you. Do it in a way that isn't creepy. Don't give to much personal information, but if go out to eat or something, they will normally ask how you are doing and instead of just saying fine or okay, throw in a comment about the weather (e.g. I'm good, but this weather really stinks.). They'll normally respond and that gives you another chance to make a general comment. (Another good way to have a conversation with servers is to ask their opinion about what to eat. Again, it is something they essentially have to talk to you about because it is their job, but it gives you a good practice to interact with people.) Then when you are in places where you might really meet people of interest (rather long terrm relationships or hooking up), set small changes in your behavior goals. Make meeting these goals the challenge and not the challenge the larger goal. If you walk into any situation with the idea that I have to find a woman to ask out or move beyond the current situation it puts a lot of pressure on you if you aren't used to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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