spjunkies Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I'm going to be completely honest and tell you that I'm bad with chatting with people and don't have any guys that I can hang with. When I go out to bars I'm able to catch a few females eyes, but for some reason I can't seem to find my balls and do the "man" part (approach). Her responsibility is pretty much to open the door and chat up the girl and I guess open for me. It's only $75 per hour, but I think it would be a good investment. http://www.wingwomen.com/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slacky McSlackAss Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Might as well go with the hooker if you're gonna spend money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeknows Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 hey man .... so you approach a woman and she turns you down.... so what.... yer going home alone anyway right? so where is the risk? nothing to lose and everything to gain Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spjunkies Posted March 16, 2011 Author Share Posted March 16, 2011 hey man .... so you approach a woman and she turns you down.... so what.... yer going home alone anyway right? so where is the risk? nothing to lose and everything to gain That's the mindset that I always enter the bar with, the problem? when it comes time to man up I ball up like a friggin turtle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticksboi05 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 SP the key is to not put them on a pedestal. Who cares if they don't end up wanting to hang out another time. What makes them special? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 That is a brilliant marketing idea. I should start something like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeknows Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 so what do YOU think the problem is?dont know how to start a conversation or what? i need to know what YOU think your issues is before i can really offer advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoony Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I'm going to be completely honest and tell you that I'm bad with chatting with people ] It helps to pick a topic ahead of time so that you're comfortable. For instance, the proliferation of socialism throughout 20th Century Latin American and its effects on the US Political Landscape might be interesting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeknows Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 SP the key is to not put them on a pedestal. Who cares if they don't end up wanting to hang out another time. What makes them special? yes yes yes. women love a challenge firts off. but out of curiosity i downloaded and listened to some programs about picking women up and the recurring theme is "Prizability" YOU are the prize and so long as you can maintain that attitude <without being a douche> you have a better chance. as soon as she feels she is the prize in the situation the leverage is on her side. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spjunkies Posted March 16, 2011 Author Share Posted March 16, 2011 so what do YOU think the problem is?dont know how to start a conversation or what? i need to know what YOU think your issues is before i can really offer advice. I think it's a mix of not knowing how to start a conversation plus looking like THAT guy at bar alone since I don't have any male friends that I can hang with. I've actually been good about going out more lately I just can't seem to take that next step. WTF is up with me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoony Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 yes yes yes. women love a challenge firts off. but out of curiosity i downloaded and listened to some programs about picking women up and the recurring theme is "Prizability" YOU are the prize and so long as you can maintain that attitude <without being a douche> you have a better chance. as soon as she feels she is the prize in the situation the leverage is on her side. Do you tie a blue ribbon to your crotch and then hit the bars? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Springfield Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Dude, pay me $75 and I'll go out with you and pick up some women for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I think it's a mix of not knowing how to start a conversation plus looking like THAT guy at bar alone since I don't have any male friends that I can hang with. I've actually been good about going out more lately I just can't seem to take that next step.WTF is up with me? I'd say always go to the same bar, that way you end up making some friends. Papa bull style. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeknows Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I think it's a mix of not knowing how to start a conversation plus looking like THAT guy at bar alone since I don't have any male friends that I can hang with. I've actually been good about going out more lately I just can't seem to take that next step.WTF is up with me? there is nothing wrong with you and that is the first thing you need to understand. so from what i gather you either feel intimidated or you are afraid of being turned down. first off.... you WILL get rejected occasionally. accept it as part of the game. ALL home run hitters strike out occasionally.some more than others but they hit the big ones and thats what counts. secondly... dont feel intimidated. women are people too and they are looking for companionship just like you are. the best way i have found to approach a woman is to find something that is immediate in the bar or place that you can comment on... when thats not available... start by giving her a small compliment. DO NOT say "you have beautiful eyes" SAY... "that blouse really accents the green in your eyes" <just an example> all women love to be complimented. the trick is to do it in some innoculous way that opens the door without making yourself to be "that guy" there are millions of single women in the world and the more of them that you approach the greater your odds of landing one. accept that you WILL get rejected. in the beginning just practice the approach. once you have the approach down, it is the old saying "always be closing the deal" im gonna look and see if i can find some info for ya ---------- Post added March-15th-2011 at 09:00 PM ---------- Do you tie a blue ribbon to your crotch and then hit the bars? lol..... no but if i did im sure it would get me more play than discussing "the proliferation of socialism throughout 20th Century Latin American and its effects on the US Political Landscape" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissance Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Stop trying to pick up girls at bars!!!!!!!!! If you are a shy/nervous dude, this is absolutely the worst way to meet people. Join a coed social sports league or some kind of other club or activity outside of work and start talking to girls as friends. I promise you will profit this way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticksboi05 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Stop trying to pick up girls at bars!!!!!!!!! If you are a shy/nervous dude, this is absolutely the worst way to meet people.Join a coed social sports league or some kind of other club or activity outside of work and start talking to girls as friends. I promise you will profit this way. Aka the last tango in Paris if you're looking for a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Join a site like OKcupid or something. No pressure talking to girls then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeknows Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 if you dont have utorrent .... get it and download this torrent... http://btjunkie.org/torrent/Swinggcat-Audio-Course-PUA-High-Quality-Seduction-Training/3785f3538d9f2823c424b31127f91d49912e066360a0 some good info on there that will help develop the attitude for the dating game. I WOULDNT LEAD YOU ASTRAY.... LISTENING TO THIS WILL HELP YOU.... I PROMISE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IONTOP Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Anyone else see the irony in this thread? SP thinks about hiring a wingwoman and the next line to the song in the title is "on my own"... Don't sweat it man, remember this advice... If you shop for a girl at the beer store, you're going to get an alcoholic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 If you shop for a girl at the beer store, you're going to get an alcoholic Says the bartender Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skinfan2k Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 you live in one of the best areas in DC for social sports. I have met so many girls through the various sports i play now. Its great. You have to get friends who are girls and then they will help u find 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeknows Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 you live in one of the best areas in dc for social sports. I have met so many girls through the various sports i play now. Its great. you have to get friends who are girls and then they will help u find 1 prolly the best advice yet Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissance Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 you live in one of the best areas in DC for social sports. I have met so many girls through the various sports i play now. Its great. You have to get friends who are girls and then they will help u find 1 Thank you. Every single person in DC should join a social sports league. You make friends and you meet girls. It's a win-win. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Another great way to meet women, volunteering. I'm going to be doing that at the SPCA soon, not for the women, but there are a slew of pretty girls who work there/volunteer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SWFLSkins Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Either drink more, care less, or care more and pick up girls at a Church group function. There are better girls there anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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