Cassow Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 I found out the other day that my wife will soon be making more than I do. Ahem, a lot more (oh say..4 times more). We have been pretty even in the salary department up until now, and I have a great job (big 4), but there is no way I can come close to what she's making. Part of me was excited to hear the news. It will totally change our lives...bigger house, nicer cars, nicer vacations...who wouldn't want that? However, another part of me wonders if I will feel diminished, or less of a man, knowing that my wife is making so much more than I am. Does anyone have experience with this, or advice on how to swallow my pride? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mufumonk Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 I found out the other day that my wife will soon be making more than I do.Ahem, a lot more (oh say..4 times more). We have been pretty even in the salary department up until now, and I have a great job (big 4), but there is no way I can come close to what she's making. Part of me was excited to hear the news. It will totally change our lives...bigger house, nicer cars, nicer vacations...who wouldn't want that? However, another part of me wonders if I will feel diminished, or less of a man, knowing that my wife is making so much more than I am. Does anyone have experience with this, or advice on how to swallow my pride? You have a sugar momma. Enjoy it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterMP Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Just make sure you keep some money squirled away for when she leaves you for somebody richer or younger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrangeSkin Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Yes, my wife is a lawyer...I am not. Hence, she makes more money. I never had a problem swallowing my pride. Maybe I didn't have any to begin with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drums and skins Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 My girlfriend will be a doctor in a couple years. I have no problem with that either. By then, I should have a decent salary in my career of choice, but hers will far exceed mine. Not that it matters for the first couple years anyways...it all goes to student bills:laugh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sith lord Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 I found out the other day that my wife will soon be making more than I do.Ahem, a lot more (oh say..4 times more). We have been pretty even in the salary department up until now, and I have a great job (big 4), but there is no way I can come close to what she's making. Part of me was excited to hear the news. It will totally change our lives...bigger house, nicer cars, nicer vacations...who wouldn't want that? However, another part of me wonders if I will feel diminished, or less of a man, knowing that my wife is making so much more than I am. Does anyone have experience with this, or advice on how to swallow my pride? The only thing you'll have to worry about is her family and friends getting into her head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassow Posted September 26, 2007 Author Share Posted September 26, 2007 The only thing you'll have to worry about is her family and friends getting into her head. Can you elaborate? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sith lord Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Can you elaborate? They might start telling her that "you shouldn't be supporting him." "You can do better." "I know someone you should meet." "Is he trying to find a better job?" I'm not trying to alarm you, but it happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dwbiggs Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Don't I wish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mass_SkinsFan Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Cassow, good luck with that. I'm not sure I could personally deal with that situation. I hope it works out for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kilmer17 Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Half Eddie!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Washington Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Can you elaborate? evil GF-"You need a man who can take care of you and can treat you like a lady. How can he do that if you're always footing the bill? He's only a blank and makes blank amount of dollars. You need a man who's on YOUR level." stuff like that. :laugh: the only thing you should worry about is the demands of the 4x pay job. hopefully she'll be around enough for you two to enjoy the extra money. if she's going to be always tired or away, i really don't think its worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G.A.C.O.L.B. Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Now are we counting what she brings home or what I let her keep? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zguy28 Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 No she doesn't, but she should. She works 112 hours a week for no pay and does the work of a housekeeper, chef, and daycare provider. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassow Posted September 26, 2007 Author Share Posted September 26, 2007 They might start telling her that "you shouldn't be supporting him." "You can do better." "I know someone you should meet." "Is he trying to find a better job?" I'm not trying to alarm you, but it happens. My wife is above all that. I know she loves me and would never let the money or anything anyone said to go to her head. Keep in mind I do have a good job, so it's not like she's "supporting" some dead-beat or anything. I think I'm more worried about my handling of the situation and not hers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsNut73 Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Early on in our marriage my wife made more than I did. It never really bothered me and there were never any "issues" as a result of it. Then again, she only made $5 or $6K more per year than me....no where near 4 times my salary. That is a big difference. She sounds like a keeper to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Predicto Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 My wife has a higher salary than I do, and it doesn't bother me a bit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popeman38 Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 The only thing you'll have to worry about is her family and friends getting into her head.Easy solution to this issue: keep your personal business personal. None of her friends or family need to know how much the two of you make, individually or cumulatively. My wife makes more than I do, and I have no issue with it. We plan accordingly, putting as much as we can into retirment so we can stop working at (crossing fingers) 55 and enjoy life. All I can say is save, save, save, and then after that, save some more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tastes Like Chicken Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 My wife is a doctor and I've always managed to make more than her, however this year I think she'll make more. But it will probably be pretty even for a while, until she gets her own practice. But I don't mind if she makes more, actually I'd encourage it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassow Posted September 26, 2007 Author Share Posted September 26, 2007 the only thing you should worry about is the demands of the 4x pay job. hopefully she'll be around enough for you two to enjoy the extra money. if she's going to be always tired or away, i really don't think its worth it. Thanks LW. Actually she'll work the same, or even less hours than she currently works. She'll also have the opportunity to set her own schedule--so that's a plus. I know I wouldn't have a problem with her making 5, 10, even 20k more than me. But, damn...4 times more is a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassow Posted September 26, 2007 Author Share Posted September 26, 2007 Now are we counting what she brings home or what I let her keep? :rotflmao: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Now are we counting what she brings home or what I let her keep? +10 for pimpness On topic: You are looking at this all wrong. Marriage is a partnership and by earning so much more then you she has increased her risk. It's her that now has to worry about the marriage disolving. If you leave, or she leaves you, you get half of everything and in doing so far more then bread crumbs you managed to bring to the table. Hell you could ask for support arguing that you've become accustomed to a level of luxury that your job just can't provide. As for your pride, forget that crap. If you love her be happy for her and cheer her on. Be proud of the fact that you married a great one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bang Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 It's a new world. My wife makes more than I do. She's also got one hell of a lot more education than I do, and is in a very good field (translation). I don't have any problem with it. If I laid around and allowed her to support everyone, then I would have a problem with me, but since I don't, I haven't got any issue. I didn't marry her education and career. I married her, and I'd have done it even if she had no education and worked in a shoe store. ~Bang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iheartskins Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Cassow, what department of the Big 4, audit, tax, advisory?? And Des is spot on with respect to this issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ACW Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Cassow, if this is too personal don't answer it, but if you work in the Big 4, which pays pretty well, may I as what she does? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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