jrockster21 Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Heard these on the radio this morning, and was curious how many of you had some of these things, and whether or not your marriages are still intact. These are from actual wedding planners, who apparently take tabs, and keep track of who gets divorced and what not. I heard this a couple hours ago, so I am definitely paraphrasing, and they may be out of order. #5 - Bride does not accept groom's input on anything, or trivializes it. #4 - Bride goes way over budget on the dress, without telling the groom. #3 - Mother of the groom is too involved, trying to make all the decisions. #2 - Bride flips out over the bachelor party. #1 - Bride and groom constantly bicker over everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buenosdiaz Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 6. groom sleeps with maid of honor at bachelors party Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
China Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 We didn't experience any of those things. We've been happily married for 14+ years now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forehead Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 #5 - Bride does not accept groom's input on anything, or trivializes it.#4 - Bride goes way over budget on the dress, without telling the groom. #3 - Mother of the groom is too involved, trying to make all the decisions. #2 - Bride flips out over the bachelor party. #1 - Bride and groom constantly bicker over everything. #5: I told her to "do whatever she wanted within reason and I'd show up in my tux." She was happy with this arrangement, and stayed under budget. #4 - See #5 #3 - I love my mother, but she doesn't have a "girly" bone in her body. She got married in her living room, for God's sake. As you can imagine, she could have card less about planning anything. #2 - My wife watches porn with me sometimes. #1 - We argued more early in the marriage, not so much anymore. Guess overall, I got pretty lucky. It's been 3.5 years now and I have no regrets, except for never getting to pwn Jennifer Aniston. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchogs Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 the only one that's close for me would be #3. my mom was pretty involved, but i don't think overly so. the wedding was at my grandparents' bay house, so my mom did a lot of more local stuff to help out my MiL (definitely no "f" at the end of that, fwiw). i'd have to ask my wife, though, for a truly accurate answer though. all the other signs are green lights for us. happily married for the majority of 12+ years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twa Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I had #4 - Bride goes way over budget on the dress, without telling the groom. but Never had a budget and her dad paid for it #3 - Mother of the groom is too involved, trying to make all the decisions. She was VERY involved and made most of the decisions,luckily the two got along great since it was a large wedding (300+)done in 5 weeks..No problems 25 yrs btw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prosperity Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I'm getting invited to a lot of weddings lately, I'm going to try and see which one's meet this criteria.... For science Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corcaigh Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I don't know about specific signs, but the most important area is getting agreement on how money will be handled. Some couples are happy living beyond their means, others are much more conservative. My wife had run up and paid off credit card debt before she met me and learned her lesson. She was totally against the idea of spending money we didn't have on engagement, wedding or honeymoon. So, either financial compatibility, or strong pimp hand, is the key to a long and happy marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NavyDave Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I saw a commercial for a reality show the other night called Bridezilla Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Observing that 4 of the five signs involve flaws in women. (And the fifth is debatable.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twa Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I saw a commercial for a reality show the other night called Bridezilla My wife likes that show,she's always saying "SEE ,I'm not that bad":saber: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kilmer17 Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Men have exactly ONE role to play in a wedding- Show up, on time, dressed, sober. I asked my wife (key word asked) for 2 things at our wedding. 1- A live band instead of a DJ. 2- A full liquor bar. She was fine with that. Other than that, I have no idea why any man WANTS to be more involved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxBuddy21 Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 #5 - Bride does not accept groom's input on anything, or trivializes it. (We both made decisions together so no problems there) #4 - Bride goes way over budget on the dress, without telling the groom. (She was really conscious of the budget so no worries there either) #3 - Mother of the groom is too involved, trying to make all the decisions. (My mom had nothing to do with the planning and wasnt trying to get involved) #2 - Bride flips out over the bachelor party. (Didnt have one so nothing to flip out over) #1 - Bride and groom constantly bicker over everything. (Not during the wedding planning. We go through stages where we bicker but thats all it is and we get over it really quick) We have only been married a year but overall I think we are doing well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corcaigh Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 My wife likes that show,she's always saying "SEE ,I'm not that bad":saber: You should watch Cops with her and make the same comment about the stars of that show. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdamB Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 #4 - Bride goes way over budget on the dress, without telling the groom. My wife managed to spend something like $250.00 under budget on her dress. #3 - Mother of the groom is too involved, trying to make all the decisions. Mother-in-law did this some, but it actually worked out pretty well. She stayed within the confines of our general plan, and made up for driving us nuts at times by paying for a honeymoon to Vegas Mother of groom was not with us to become too involved. #2 - Bride flips out over the bachelor party. Happend, but not the way implied - wifey was miffed that one of the guests forgot their ID in Pittsburgh, so the roving bachelor party had to skip the strip-club crawl. #1 - Bride and groom constantly bicker over everything. Happend some, but mostly was due to pressures at work that were going on at the same time (massive layoffs during the same time period). We will be married 10 years in October, and while it has been rough at times (wife drove OTR for awhile), we are still going strong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
techboy Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Men have exactly ONE role to play in a wedding- Show up, on time, dressed, sober. A corollary to this rule came from my father who, for my sister's wedding, told me that his job was to keep his "mouth shut and wallet open". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Predicto Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 #5 - Bride does not accept groom's input on anything, or trivializes it. Nope. We are equals. #4 - Bride goes way over budget on the dress, without telling the groom. Nope. We bought it together. #3 - Mother of the groom is too involved, trying to make all the decisions. Could well have happened. My mom wanted to invite about 300 people. So, we foreclosed that by getting married in Barbados, close friends and family only. :laugh: #2 - Bride flips out over the bachelor party. Nope. Didn't really have one - I was chilling in Barbados so it was ok. #1 - Bride and groom constantly bicker over everything. Absolutely. We squabble and negotiate all the time about everything. That is the price of being equals. :saber: It is the only way to go. Happily married for 17 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
techboy Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Nope. We are equals. When the man says that he and his bride are equals, I think we all know what that really means... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaceman Spiff Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I'm a best man in a wedding in late September. Some of these definitely apply. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Predicto Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 When the man says that he and his bride are equals, I think we all know what that really means... Yep. It means that he got lucky and so did she. :point2sky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 6. groom sleeps with maid of honor at bachelors party wtf would the maid of honor be doing at a bachelor's party? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twa Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 wtf would the maid of honor be doing at a bachelor's party? Duh...sleeping with the groom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 #5 - Bride does not accept groom's input on anything, or trivializes it.#4 - Bride goes way over budget on the dress, without telling the groom. #3 - Mother of the groom is too involved, trying to make all the decisions. #2 - Bride flips out over the bachelor party. #1 - Bride and groom constantly bicker over everything. 5 - I offered no input other than the color my side would be wearing and where we'd be going on the honeymoon. 4 - Don't care. It's her money and the only joint accounts we have are on joint debt. 3 - My wife asked my mom for help and had no problem making decisions. 2 - All women do and lets be frank some bachelor parties go way over any acceptable line. This is why we ban cameras. Don't act like this is news to you either. You just have to sell it as wild but not too wild. 1 - I had almost no input that wasn't asked of me. Nothing to fight about. Men shouldn't be heavily involved in the details IMO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Duh...sleeping with the groom. haha! Seriously though, none of my friends would agree to go if a female friend of the bride was attending. That's a spy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drtdrums Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Funny thread. Not to bring too much seriousness to this, but I found this amazing. People quote the "50% of all marriages end in divorce" stat a lot. But as Churchill said, there are lies, damned lies, and statistics. The numbers behind successful marriage are much more telling. 95% of marriages succeed where: 1. The household income is over $150,000 2. Both parties come from an unbroken home 3. They have some form of religion in common 4. The spouses have had less than 3 sexual partners in their life I realize those four qualifiers are a bit stringent, but that just blew my mind. Even if you take out one of them, the success rate doesn't drop much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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