Slateman Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 So my buddy and I were having a discussion. Could you fall in love with someone over the internet/phone? Now, it wouldn't be exclusively over the internet, obviously. But say you meet someone on a message board or a friend of a friend. But you're far away. Still, at some point, you need to be face to face. My buddy makes the arguement that its a great way to get to know someone. You can have deep and meaningful conversations with the person. You can get to know them at a level beyond just wanting to sleep with them. I was pretty quiet. Interesting concept. I did argue about the need for at least some physical attraction. He countered that you could send pictures of each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mufumonk Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 A friend of mine met his wife over the internet playing an MMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMike619 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 the problem with it is that there isnt that face to face connection. the phone/internet gives a false sense of security so you are more open but once face to face you lose it all and it becomes real and the things you felt comfortable saying on the phone you might not express once you look in the other person's eyes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoony Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Love? no I don't think so, not without face to face interaction. Attraction though, yes I think so Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMike619 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Love? no I don't think so, not without face to face interaction. Attraction though, yes I think so but zoony, i thought you loved me man? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jnhay Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I think it's possible, but not for everyone. If you have webcams it makes even more sense considering the only difference is physical interaction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rdskn4Lyf21 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 You have to have face to face interaction to really understand someone, see whether they are genuine, and fall in love with them. All of this is text with no real emotion or action behind it.....anyone can fake that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoony Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 but zoony, i thought you loved me man? sorry, it's just attraction Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissance Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Love is overrated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rdskn4Lyf21 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Love is overrated. I never thought I'd say this, but at this point I kinda agree... Along the internet thing, I have a friend who has gotten herself into so much trouble by becoming infatuated with guys online only for them to really hurt her in real life. Like I said before, anyone can say something over the internet and portray themselves in a different light than what they really are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMike619 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 sorry, it's just attraction well its mutual then...:laugh: Love is overrated. bull****.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GibbsFactor Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I think you can. I think you can form that special bond that allows one to feel comfortable with another. The problem would be when the original plan breaks down. There's a certain freedom associated with long distance or online dating that allows the individual to feel like they have a partner without all the hassle of being with them and compromising with them on a daily basis. I'd imagine that a lot of these relationships flame out once it becomes serious enough where they move in together or are at a point where the initial setup of the relationship changes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tastes Like Chicken Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 My relationship's beginnings were all over the phone and via AIM/email, because she was in Winston-Salem and I was in MD. So the early days were just about communicating, talking about our goals, our day, etc. When we had the opportunities to be together, it made it seem like we made the most of it. Things changed when she moved back to MD and we got married. 7 years and 2 kids later, it seems to have worked for us. I think relationships are more about how you get through the rough patches, than how they begin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Get Pissed Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 the problem with it is that there isnt that face to face connection. the phone/internet gives a false sense of security so you are more open but once face to face you lose it all and it becomes real and the things you felt comfortable saying on the phone you might not express once you look in the other person's eyes. Adding on to this I feel that once two people interact/unite face to face for the first time it is completely like meeting each other for the first time. Make sense? Conversations will be repeated plenty of times and it would be like meeting eachother, despite "knowing" each other for the past two years for example. Sure it can happen, but not for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Switchgear Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I was just thinking about this yesterday. I had an met someone online once and took a trip to meet her. I had formed an idea of her personality from chatting, talking on the phone and exchanging pictures. She was nothing like what I thought she would be. It's much more likely that your friend will believe she is the person he wants her to be rather than the person that she is, if you get what I'm saying. But these things do work out sometimes, so it's up to him to decide if it's worth investing the time and money it takes to see these things through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sacase Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I think that you can fall in love with the idea of the person, but until you meet and confirm things, then you are not truly in love with the person. On the phone and over email you can say anything and be anything you want. Once you get to be in person, then you can confirm things. I do think the internet is a great way to meet people you would not normally meet. However I am not sure if this is a good or bad thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renegade7 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Even though my love grew for my first true love(which was longdistance), it never would've came to be if I hadn't of met this woman first. Having said that, we eventually grew as far apart as we lived because of the fact we never got to see each other. Touch is a key part of a serious relationship. Seeing, hearing, smelling, even tasting don't compare to being able to reach out and hold the person you supposedly care about more then anyone else. My experience, long distance relationships do not work. Building the whole thing over a medium is unneccesarily difficult for me. Other people have their ways, but I can't do it. Don't want to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G-Prime Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I thought you all knew that I loved each of you very very deeply.. I've only ever met a handful of you jackholes.. but damn it I love ya! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thiebear Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 My representative kicks ass, i am perfect in every way. in person.. ehhhh, not so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Bay Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I met my wife online. Not until I met her in person did I know that I loved her, but before that there was a great sense of fondness that I tried to push away because I had had some issues before with online friendships. So, yes you can fall in love with someone over the phone/internet. But whether that transcends into a real relationship is something different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissance Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 bull****.. it's ok bigmike, i still love YOU Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsOrlando Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 In the day and era of webcams, IM's and things like that I'd say it is entriely possible to "lay" the foundation for a loving relationship. It forces communication between two parties where as physically being around someone often does not since things like movies, television etc take our minds off of conversation when were with someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosher Ham Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Personally, no. I need to see the hotness in person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark The Homer Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Love is overrated. bull****.. it's ok bigmike, i still love YOU Conclusion: Miss Ren likes guys who talk dirty to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMike619 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 it's ok bigmike, i still love YOU keep telling me those sweet little lies.... Conclusion:Miss Ren likes guys who talk dirty to her. if only it were that easy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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