Koolblue13 Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 The girl I am currently convinced I am in love with, I took to the airport to fly out and see her first love who she thinks she may still and always be in love with. Nothing has ever happened with me in this girl, but we've admitted to being in love with each other, but that we should stay friends. I just talked to her for the first time a second ago and she told me how she thinks it's nothing and they are just going to remain friends and she doesn't like the way he touches her. Now there's a bitter sweet conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 I'm thinking troll at this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 I'm thinking troll at this point. Last post of last page he just checked in Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 The girl I am currently convinced I am in love with, I took to the airport to fly out and see her first love who she thinks she may still and always be in love with. Nothing has ever happened with me in this girl, but we've admitted to being in love with each other, but that we should stay friends. I just talked to her for the first time a second ago and she told me how she thinks it's nothing and they are just going to remain friends and she doesn't like the way he touches her. Now there's a bitter sweet conversation. "we've admitted to being in love with each other, but that we should stay friends" This means you aren't in love. Seriously. ---------- Post added August-5th-2011 at 05:42 PM ---------- Last post of last page he just checked in That's what prompted my post. He cried himself to sleep, feels 50% better, and is preparing for a test in october? Nope not buying it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissance Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 I know some guys throw away pics of their ex. I think guys should keep the pics, but just put them away for a time. After time passes and the ex's no longer depress you, the pics are easier to look at down the road. I saved pics of all my ex-girlfriends. Sometimes I pull them out and look at them. It actually makes me feel better seeing old lands I conquered lol. This sounds really sad actually. edit: And not sad in a "oh I can't believe I let her go" kind of way, but in a seriously living in the past kind of way. Find a girl that you are proud of now and you don't have to live off of your previous "accomplishments" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mickalino Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Why is it, everytime I see this thread title about getting dumped, I'm immediately reminded of the colonic irrigation thread ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mooka Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Eat very little.... sleep very little.... smoke a pack a day.... .... and eventually fall in love with someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koolblue13 Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 "we've admitted to being in love with each other, but that we should stay friends"This means you aren't in love. Seriously. ---------- Post added August-5th-2011 at 05:42 PM ---------- That's what prompted my post. He cried himself to sleep, feels 50% better, and is preparing for a test in october? Nope not buying it. Maybe you're right. There is a lot more too it than you'd know, but hey, it's possible. ---------- Post added August-5th-2011 at 02:06 PM ---------- Why is it, everytime I see this thread title about getting dumped, I'm immediately reminded of the colonic irrigation thread ? Because you have issues. Serious, serious issues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
War Paint Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 This sounds really sad actually.edit: And not sad in a "oh I can't believe I let her go" kind of way, but in a seriously living in the past kind of way. Find a girl that you are proud of now and you don't have to live off of your previous "accomplishments" I think you are looking too deep. I don't get real emotional about it. I think when you throw things away like that, you actually are trying too hard to get over pain. Heck, why have a camera or a way to take pictures if you're just gonna throw them away? Pretty dumb IMO. I rarely look at the pics, but when I do, I'm not thinking "oh, I wish I had her back". It's more of "Yeah, I tapped that hot piece of booty". lol. Keep in mind, I'm not married. I'm sure that will change if I ever get married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissance Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Yea I got what you're saying. And I think it's sad. But hey, what ever makes you feel better about yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
War Paint Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Yea I got what you're saying. And I think it's sad. But hey, what ever makes you feel better about yourself. Why keep any pictures? Why keep a picture of a beach trip? Why keep a picture of a trip to the mountains? Why keep a picture of a car you used to drive? It's all in the past? Why dwell in the past? In fact, burn your baby pictures. It was so long ago. If you keep any pictures, it is sad. Throw your camera away. Worst invention ever. lol whateva Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KingGibbs Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Lay on the floor in the fetal position and cry 'til you can't cry no more. It is going to take you exactly 30 days to get over it. Start marking the calander. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeaconTheVillain Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Why keep any pictures? Why keep a picture of a beach trip? Why keep a picture of a trip to the mountains? Why keep a picture of a car you used to drive? It's all in the past? Why dwell in the past? In fact, burn your baby pictures. It was so long ago. If you keep any pictures, it is sad. Throw your camera away. Worst invention ever. lol whateva I agree. I only keep pics of things I have ****ed as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosher Ham Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 I don't even know where to begin. I think it would be best if I left this one alone. You won't like what I have to say. Side note: Some of you guys within the first 30 or so posts that I read really gave some pitiful advice. There were some good ones however, I remember Die Hard, keeastman, and GACOLB's mostly. Although I wouldn't say I agree with all that they had to say either. Good Luck man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 Maybe you're right. There is a lot more too it than you'd know, but hey, it's possible. I have no doubt that it's complicated. Nothing is ever as simple as we'd like it to be and I too have had those connections that endure and haunt. I dont know how to define that but ive been there and its confusing. The difference is that love isn't so passive when it storms into your life. Love takes your world and yanks the rug out from under it. Your friends get alarmed over the change they see and you consider running them down with your car if they jeopardize this thing you've found. Love is a *****. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RichmondRedskin88 Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 Been through this **** before 1. use anything from sports to video games to working out. 2. find someone who's willing to listen if you need to vent or whatever. Avoid getting into a conversation about it with her friends. ITS A LOSE LOSE SITUATION. 3. If there's anyone you thought you had a potential interest in or something take a chance at them. Might be a good way to get over. Think of it as a new project lol. 4 Quite simply it takes time. 5. Don't bother to call her. There's nothing to gain from it. Spilling your feelings will get you no where. It just makes you feel like **** and look desperate. 6. Don't go alcohol. I know when I got over one I spent a fair amount of time at bars with some friends. The friends part of that is good but drinking won't solve crap. It just reminds you of why your there and also it hurts your wallet too. On that same note DON"T DRINK AT HOME BY YOURSELF. Last thing you should do is get into a drinking fit by yourself over a chick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
winstonspencer Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 two chicks at one time. you're welcome Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SWFLSkins Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 I don't know what the particulars are here with this girl, but I would say number one is taking care of yourself. Work out, eat right, do some internal enlightenment(reading is good). focus on being happy with yourself. Don't drink heavily, it won't change anything. Getting laid is short term, but will help. Time heals all wounds and the sooner you pick yourself up and move on the better for you. ---------- Post added August-5th-2011 at 11:10 PM ---------- and remember this could have been you..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skinsfan07 Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 I suggest reading Everyday by Osho, and Live in a Better Way by Dalai Lama. I picked these two up the other week and they already have had a significant impact on m outlook of life and finding inner happiness through meditation and peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubble Screen Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 maybe i missed it, but did the OP say how long he was dating this girl? 9 months. Way too short of a time to be wasting on this girl. That's not even long enough to have lasting feelings for someone. I thought he just got dumped after a long relationship. Move on, dude. I wouldn't waste 2 minutes of my time on this chic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grantarchy Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 Dude, the saying "time heals all wounds" is one of the most true you will ever hear. Fast forward to age 40 and you will not give a **** about this chick, and you will probably find it difficult to even remember a meaningful conversation you had with her. Seriously, I know it's difficult to believe right now, but it's true. As far as dealing with it right now, I think everyone has their own methods, but exercise is one of the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeanTaylor5907 Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 Smoke weed and read a book! That method has got me through many a tough time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destructis Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 I get over break-ups rather easily. At the end of the day.... she doesn't want to have an intimate relationship with you. So why the hell would you want to be with someone that isn't into you? Why empower another human being like that?Be comfortable with yourself. And resume being who you were BEFORE your relationship... and don't ever lose yourself again. In the end, this is all about you. Getting sloshed, banging chicks, yada yada... that's not the advice from people with sound mind. That's just the easiest cliche-driven desperate behavior that any human being can think of. Now, there's nothing wrong with any of that... if that's who you were all along But otherwise, don't let other people change who you are and your behaviour. Again, why empower someone like that. But if you want to end up being someone's *****ch.... let me know. I could use one This is really good advice. Getting drunk really won't help. I do know that in my case, getting laid has helped a ton in my past. It does a couple of things for me. It helps me feel as though there is someone else out there. That I am still attractive enough that I can be wanted, even if you just get into a friends with benefits thing, it helps. The last thing it does is after the first time you have sex with someone else, it makes me feel like I am over that person. I am just being honest in what worked for me in the past. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubble Screen Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 Lots of terrible advice here. Especially the ones telling him to get drunk and smoke weed. That's idiotic. And it only compounds the misery he may be feeling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robotfire Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 Don't try to remain friends with her. It's too painful, and you need to accept that it's over if you want to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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