ljs Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 This is actually a serious thread, and I'd like to see how you guys feel if this happened to your kid. My 13 yr old nephew was basically attacked by a group of highschool wrestlers. My nephew is barely 13, a skinny nerdy kid who isn't really athletic, but has played a little sports in his young life. He is more concerned with computer games and military stuff (knows everything about every plane in each war.) His best friend's father is a highschool wrestling coach who happened to grow up with my nephews dad (who played football in college) My nephew is on a couple week trip to the family orchard of said wrestling coach, who brought along several members of the wrestling team. Last night my sister gets a frantic call from my nephew, saying he has a bloody nose, was held down and "teabagged" by several of these high school wrestlers. And apparently this coach didn't seem to have much of a problem with it, and neither did my nephews dad (who has primary custody of my nephew). He described to my sister that these high school guys were taking their pants down and sitting on his face, "smearing" their gentiles in his face. As a former law enforcement officer, and current crime victim advocate- I'm appalled at the behavior, but more appalled that the adult male supervising them wasn't too concerned. To me, this isn't just a criminal act, but also a form of sexual assault. My sister is worried that in the next few days of this trip, the hazing/bullying or whatever you call it will escalate. Whats your opinion? What would you guys do if you were the adult supervising? Or if you were the parent of a kid that this happened too, or what if you found out your teenage son did this to a younger kid? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destructis Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I would press charges for assault and battery. Plain and simple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tulane Skins Fan Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Its not sexual assault, but it is assault. The fact that the kid's dad didn't think it was a big idea is pretty disturbing. IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grhqofb5 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I've seen some ****, but that crosses the line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CRobi21 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 That's disgusting; in every form of the word and situation. If I was the coach them boys would be hurting a for about a week. If I was a parent of the bullies there'd be hell to pay also. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sportjunkie07 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 never thought it was funny...i would be fighting whoever did it if it happened to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljs Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 they will be home on Monday, and my sister is waiting until then to report it. She is concerned with further retaliation if she does something right now. The other problem, is that they are in Montana, and we live in Washington state. So she can call the school board of where this guy coaches, but not sure if the law enforcement in Montana would do much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RVAbrendan Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Teabagging your buddy when he's passed out for the purpose of a picture? Okay. But this situation? I would be severely pissed if were you. Nephew should have used his chompers! Edit: They live states away? Tis the time for revenge. Nair in the shampoo bottles? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoony Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 well he sounds like father of the year. ---------- Post added August-12th-2011 at 05:14 PM ---------- Teabagging your buddy when he's passed out for the purpose of a picture? Okay. I have a great picture of my suitemate in college- somewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeaconTheVillain Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Tell your nephew to bite? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SWFLSkins Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Whats your opinion? What would you guys do if you were the adult supervising? Or if you were the parent of a kid that this happened too, or what if you found out your teenage son did this to a younger kid? ______________________________________________ Wow tough to know what I would do. I do think the coach should be arrested and charged, he is afterall an adult and this happened under his supervision. Crazy to think that none of the boys were aware of what they were actually doing, I think they should be charged as well. This kid is probably scarred for life and won't trust anyone including his own father anytime soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandymac27 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 That's horrible. If I were your sister, not only would I press charges against the kids AND the supposed adults who were supervising these kids, but I would call your nephews father and ask why the hell he didn't do anything about it, and demand that he take that boy the hell out of there. If he doesn't leave with your nephew, I would go and get him myself if I were your sister. I just saw how you said they were in Montana. I would still tell the father off and make sure he doesn't continue to allow this kind of behavior. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SWFLSkins Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 they will be home on Monday, and my sister is waiting until then to report it. She is concerned with further retaliation if she does something right now. The other problem, is that they are in Montana, and we live in Washington state. So she can call the school board of where this guy coaches, but not sure if the law enforcement in Montana would do much. I would have an attorney call the police and then the school board to be honest, someone needs to light a fire and a call from an attorney would do the trick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RVAbrendan Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 OP, call the father and rip him a new one and threaten to press charges. See what happens. Post results. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljs Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 Teabagging your buddy when he's passed out for the purpose of a picture? Okay.But this situation? I would be severely pissed if were you. Nephew should have used his chompers! Edit: They live states away? Tis the time for revenge. Nair in the shampoo bottles? No, we all live in Washington, but the coaches family is originally from Flathead, MT, and have a large orchard that has been in his family for a few generations (cherries I think). I was so pissed last night I told my sister we should just go get him. She is 2 hrs south of me, and its another 5-6 hr drive to Flathead, MT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoony Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Tell your nephew to bite? or rub Icy Hot on his forehead Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 If we lived in a country where justice meant something I'd say call the police. Sadly in this instance it will land all those boys on the ridiculous sex offender registry and ruin their lives. There is no question that this incident requires a reaction but the adult in the situation is an obvious moron and if any of those kids got smacked around we'd hear about child abuse. I'd call the adult again and make it clear that if any bullying takes place he'd be in the paper on monday morning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeaconTheVillain Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Tell your nephew to spread a rumor that kid is gay. Nothing scares kids more than having their sexuality questioned. Also this OP, call the father and rip him a new one and threaten to press charges. See what happens.Post results. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljs Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 PS- my nephews dad is not on this trip. My sister called him last night as soon as she got off the phone with my nephew. He told my sister that she was over reacting and he wasn't concerned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeaconTheVillain Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I think you should probably bring up the fact that this could land the boys on teh sex offender list to this coach. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandymac27 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 No, we all live in Washington, but the coaches family is originally from Flathead, MT, and have a large orchard that has been in his family for a few generations (cherries I think). I was so pissed last night I told my sister we should just go get him. She is 2 hrs south of me, and its another 5-6 hr drive to Flathead, MT. If it's only a 5-6 hour drive, I say go get him! They have a whole weekend left there. God only knows what the hell these idiot kids will do to him. ---------- Post added August-12th-2011 at 05:22 PM ---------- PS- my nephews dad is not on this trip. My sister called him last night as soon as she got off the phone with my nephew. He told my sister that she was over reacting and he wasn't concerned. Definitely go get him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tulane Skins Fan Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I think your brother in law is wrong. Honestly, the fact that your nephew is 13 means a lot. They are bullied and abused him. Its one thing if its a bunch of your friends in college and you pass out from drinking too much. The way it sounds is like these kids held him down and threw their junk on his face while he was kicking and screaming. That's ****ed up. I'd call the cops in Montana and ask them to have the kid escorted home immediately. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destino Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 PS- my nephews dad is not on this trip. She did call him and went off about it- He told my sister last night that she was over reacting. This was the child's father? Wow. In my family we didn't tell dad because we were afraid he'd shoot somebody. He erred on the side of "don't you ever **** with my family!" as proven by the fact he tossed a stoner in a river for bumping into me (which he felt was on purpose) while we were fishing. As such I always just expect fathers to freak out at the hint of harm coming to their kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljs Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 If it's only a 5-6 hour drive, I say go get him! They have a whole weekend left there. God only knows what the hell these idiot kids will do to him.---------- Post added August-12th-2011 at 05:22 PM ---------- Definitely go get him. Thats what I told her. His father has primary custody, and if my sister goes to get him- she could get in trouble if it wasn't ok'd by the dad. Its a long story, but their divorce was really bad, and her ex is so much of an *******, that he would do everything in his power to either put her in jail, or try to get any of her visitations revoked. She has to play by those rules, and awful as it is. It sucks not having any control over the situation. I know a guy from highschool who was sodomized with a broom handle by fellow wrestlers. He almost died from it. And I swear, if they do anything else to him, there will be hell to pay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tulane Skins Fan Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I will add one thing: The other option is to tell your nephew that you can come get him, or he can fight back for himself. That she won't be mad at him if he fights back and stands up for himself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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