Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Kind of a spin-off of the shacking up thread, but it's enough of a different topic to live on its own. Whenever I live with/get married to someone, there is absolutely, positively no chance in hell that we'll share the same bedroom, let alone the same bed. I honestly can't figure out what motivates anyone at all to do so, other than the simple pattern of box-like thinking that's developed because somewhere along the line, our culture decided that it's "normal" for a couple living together to also sleep together. I can understand people doing it simply because their parents and grandparents did it, and they never even consider the alternative. What I can't understand is people actually arguing for it. Yet all the signals I'm getting are telling me that most couples still sleep in the same bed when they live together. I can't believe that such a lopsided ratio does this simply because it's expected, or because they literally can't afford a place with two bedrooms. Am I totally on an island here? What motivates people to sacrifice the most personal of personal spaces, not to mention their ****ing sleep, simply to be sleeping within a couple feet of somebody else every night? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mickalino Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Splitting bedrooms would make it easier to cheat on your mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissU28 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 cuddling!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brad89 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Yeah, you're the only one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissance Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I take it you're not a cuddler? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissU28 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 it's comforting and safe Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mickalino Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I take it you're not a cuddler? or a spooner :laugh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 I take it you're not a cuddler? Never understood how the two equate. I have a girlfriend that lives a few miles away. We bang, we cuddle, we watch episodes of The Office. If we're both really tired, she stays over and we crash. If not, she goes home, and we each sleep in our own beds at our own times. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G.A.C.O.L.B. Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I can't even go to sleep anymore unless I'm touching/holding my wife. Congratulations. You're the first person I've EVER met that doesn't plan on sharing a bed with their significant other. *cough*eunuch*cough* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boysetsfire Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 The hell? I like spooning. I don't do it because "society" does it. I do it because I want to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 Splitting bedrooms would make it easier to cheat on your mate. Uh... what? My bedroom is next to hers in the same house, this somehow makes it easier than if we had the same bedroom? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 The hell? I like spooning. I don't do it because "society" does it. I do it because I want to. Who the hell said anything against spooning? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissU28 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 does your girlfriend agree to this arrangement? If you lived with her would she be okay with sleeping in a different bedroom? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 Congratulations. You're the first person I've EVER met that doesn't plan on sharing a bed with their significant other. *cough*eunuch*cough* ...and who the hell said anything against sex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boysetsfire Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Who the hell said anything against spooning? No one. I'm telling you why I share my bed with my girlfriend. You're weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burgundy Burner Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 This is a lead balloon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rdskn4Lyf21 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Weird. Really weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 does your girlfriend agree to this arrangement? If you lived with her would she be okay with sleeping in a different bedroom? Yes to the first question. As to the second, she originally disagreed, but after about two months, she told me that she had changed her mind and thought separate bedrooms really did make more sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 No one. I'm telling you why I share my bed with my girlfriend. You're weird. You can't spoon unless you actually spend your 8 sleeping hours a day with her? And you call me weird? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boysetsfire Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 This thread reminds of something MSF would make. Way out there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissU28 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Yes to the first question. As to the second, she originally disagreed, but after about two months, she told me that she had changed her mind and thought separate bedrooms really did make more sense. Well I was going to say, "good luck finding a girl who would agree to that arrangement", but looks like you have. To each his own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 This is a lead balloon. Ha, seriously. Apparently the answer to my question is, "Yes, you're definitely the only one." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Sisko Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Kind of a spin-off of the shacking up thread, but it's enough of a different topic to live on its own.Whenever I live with/get married to someone, there is absolutely, positively no chance in hell that we'll share the same bedroom, let alone the same bed. I honestly can't figure out what motivates anyone at all to do so, other than the simple pattern of box-like thinking that's developed because somewhere along the line, our culture decided that it's "normal" for a couple living together to also sleep together. I can understand people doing it simply because their parents and grandparents did it, and they never even consider the alternative. What I can't understand is people actually arguing for it. Yet all the signals I'm getting are telling me that most couples still sleep in the same bed when they live together. I can't believe that such a lopsided ratio does this simply because it's expected, or because they literally can't afford a place with two bedrooms. Am I totally on an island here? What motivates people to sacrifice the most personal of personal spaces, not to mention their ****ing sleep, simply to be sleeping within a couple feet of somebody else every night? I may be going out on a liimb here but, methinks you might have a bit of a problem finding a mate. What you're describing is a lot like the hookups we all used to have in college. "OK, it was great and all but don't fall asleep because you can't stay in my dorm room overnight." Thanks, but no thanks on doing that for the rest of my life. Going to bed and waking up with my wife is one of life's simple pleasures that I'd really not want to miss out on. Besides, it makes it a lot easier to, well, you know, when I wake up in the middle of the night feeling all, well, you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rincewind Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Remember those old sitcoms where they'd show the bedroom and there would be two beds with a nightstand between them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubbs Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 This thread reminds of something MSF would make. Way out there. Jesus, sleeping in separate beds is now equivalent to believing that the earth doesn't exist outside of the borders of the US of A? Getting a tiny bit extreme, don't you think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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