HtownRocks111 Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Whats your take on this, parents? My s/o and I were discussing. Scenario: A kid takes away a toy from another kid. As a parent, do you punish the kid on top of making them return the toy, or is the action of giving the toy back punishment enough? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bang Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Depends, if he takes it on the playground while they're playing and plays with it, making them give it back is enough. if he steals it and takes it home, that's a bit different, and severity of punishment depends on the age. Lesson has to be taught. Young kids punishment enough can be bringing it back and apologizing.. but depends on the kid. ~Bang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheDoyler23 Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 The age of the kid in the scenario is definitely needed here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twa Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 1 hour ago, TheDoyler23 said: The age of the kid in the scenario is definitely needed here. Yeah, there are times to punish...but your job is to instruct and correct. Not that I mind inflicting mental anguish and pain when called for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dfitzo53 Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Depends. If somebody's kid steals one of our noisemaking toys, I'll probably gift wrap it and send it home with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoony Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Is this a thread about Trump U? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadySkinsFan Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 I had two basic rules for my daughter. 1. Clean up after yourself. 2. If it's not yours, don't touch it without permission. Mostly I would have the child return and apologize. And if it continues, more correction is needed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elessar78 Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 In 90% of cases handing the toy back is enough and not "punishment"-you're just modifying behavior. Not every incorrect behavior requires a punishment to be corrected. More importantly: catch them being good. Meaning wait for them to do the right things and praise them for it. It's a much better route to getting the behaviors you want to stick and surface. And it's a much better foundation for your relationship with the child. Its not a good thing if they learn the rules of living with others only through the negative (i.e punishment and corrections and "no"s). There is room for both. Aim for 50-50 positive reinforcement to negative. But 60-40 is probably more realistic in either direction. It's when you get 70-30 or worsewhere it becomes too strict or too permissive. Balance is a good thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riggo-toni Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Well, if you are Adrian Peterson and the kid is more than 4 years old, you beat the **** out of him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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