Commander_N_Chief Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Ok so I am with a girl who I completely adore, and things have been going well up until just recently. It seems just a couple of nights ago she went to a hockey game, ok that's normal...turns out it was with her ex boyfriend. Now I tried to tell myself ok well people who break up can go out together as friends whatever...but if it's just a friendly meeting why not tell me who she's going with? Not to mention when she called after the game, she told me she had to hang up with me because he was coming back to the car? So I let this go figuring ok maybe it's just my mind running away with ideas. Until last night I find out at 10:30 at night she's going to her boss(happens to be a dude)'s house to watch a movie. She told me she had to get off with me because she didn't want to seem rude to him. Ok so am I going crazy or what would any of you make out of this situation? What would you do in this situation? Ladies I would also appreciate your input to try and get a girls point of view out of this situation. Thanks everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DButz65 Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Be blunt and ask her if she still has feelings for her ex, if she does, time to drop her like a bad habit. My :2cents: No one needs extra baggage from past relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsHokieFan Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Be blunt and ask her if she still has feelings for her ex, if she does, time to drop her like a bad habit. My :2cents: No one needs extra baggage from past relationships. Agree, don't be a wuss, show no weakness and don't let her walk all over you Find out what is going on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G.A.C.O.L.B. Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Everything you just said you tell her. Confront her on the **** and go from there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Judges Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 If you don't mind being part of her rotation, stay with her. She's jerking you around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Commander_N_Chief Posted November 16, 2006 Author Share Posted November 16, 2006 It's not that I'm afraid to confront her, I just wanted to make sure that I'm not being an idiot on what's going on. Maybe someone saw it differantly before I decided to look like a moron. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HOF44 Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 If you don't mind being part of her rotation, stay with her. She's jerking you around. We have the winner here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsHokieFan Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 If you don't mind being part of her rotation, stay with her. She's jerking you around. Couldn't say it better then that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ax Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 If you've already hit it, run like hell. If not, hit it, then run like hell. (Always use protection) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coooleeey Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 I remember some of your other threads on this. Is this the girl that lives in Mass? Dude, you are so far away from her if you are already jealous it won't work out. Find someone closer to you who will be your friend as well as your lover. Its pretty simple, long distance relationships just don't work. The farther away she is from you the more things will be complicated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Munchkin76 Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Who did she say she was going to the game with? You mentioned you had to hang up the phone because he was coming back to the car but said that she didn't tell you who she was going with. If she's been lying to you about where she's going or whatnot, it's time to cut your losses and move on. That's my female point of view. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RabidFan Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 The "whatnot" should be your concern. Just act disinterested and see how she acts... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Commander_N_Chief Posted November 16, 2006 Author Share Posted November 16, 2006 Who did she say she was going to the game with? You mentioned you had to hang up the phone because he was coming back to the car but said that she didn't tell you who she was going with.If she's been lying to you about where she's going or whatnot, it's time to cut your losses and move on. That's my female point of view. She never mentioned that she was going to the game with anyone. It turns out when she had to hang up quickly because he was coming back, she also admitted she had went to the game with him in that same conversation. She didn't lie that she was going to a hockey game, she just "failed" to mention that it was with her ex boyfriend. And like I said it didn't really bother me that it was with him, more the fact that if nothing was going on, why would she hang up with me so quickly and just so happen to leave out that she was going with him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Judges Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 She never mentioned that she was going to the game with anyone. It turns out when she had to hang up quickly because he was coming back, she also admitted she had went to the game with him in that same conversation. She didn't lie that she was going to a hockey game, she just "failed" to mention that it was with her ex boyfriend. And like I said it didn't really bother me that it was with him, more the fact that if nothing was going on, why would she hang up with me so quickly and just so happen to leave out that she was going with him? Even if she isn't dating him behind your back, she's talking to you behind his back. Dishonesty is habitual, and she is clearly in the habit. Plenty of fish in the sea. Go have some fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Munchkin76 Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 She never mentioned that she was going to the game with anyone. It turns out when she had to hang up quickly because he was coming back, she also admitted she had went to the game with him in that same conversation. She didn't lie that she was going to a hockey game, she just "failed" to mention that it was with her ex boyfriend. And like I said it didn't really bother me that it was with him, more the fact that if nothing was going on, why would she hang up with me so quickly and just so happen to leave out that she was going with him? If your gut reaction is making you question her intentions, then you already have your answer. The only thing that some people do is neglect to tell their partner things because they are afraid it will cause an argument or whatever. I'm not saying that her intentions could be completely bad, though that's how it sounds. In any relationship, for it to work, communication and honesty is key. Let me ask you this. Are you willing to have her constantly leave out important details? Obviously, she's trying to spare your feelings. But how would you differentiate between is it because it's innocent or because she's trying out other options? I'd bet on the second. Because for her to have to hang up the phone quickly would indicate to me that this ex doesn't know anything about you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyber Pimp Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 I have a question. Are you banging her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeorama Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 If you don't mind being part of her rotation, stay with her. She's jerking you around. :applause: :applause: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeorama Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 I have a question. Are you banging her? OJ was the wife beater... not this guy.... :paranoid: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Commander_N_Chief Posted November 16, 2006 Author Share Posted November 16, 2006 If your gut reaction is making you question her intentions, then you already have your answer.The only thing that some people do is neglect to tell their partner things because they are afraid it will cause an argument or whatever. I'm not saying that her intentions could be completely bad, though that's how it sounds. In any relationship, for it to work, communication and honesty is key. Let me ask you this. Are you willing to have her constantly leave out important details? Obviously, she's trying to spare your feelings. But how would you differentiate between is it because it's innocent or because she's trying out other options? I'd bet on the second. Because for her to have to hang up the phone quickly would indicate to me that this ex doesn't know anything about you. That's part of the reason why I asked about this Munchkin, at first with the hockey inncident I felt maybe she was sparing my feelings so I let it slide. But most recently with the boss too. Something tells me I should have just went with my gut when this first came up. I agree communication is the key to any successful relationship, and it seems I'm only getting half the story now with what seems all the time... Even if she isn't dating him behind your back, she's talking to you behind his back. Dishonesty is habitual, and she is clearly in the habit. Plenty of fish in the sea. Go have some fun. I never thought of it in that sense. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
herrmag Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Always trust your instincts. You KNOW what is going on, but you don't want to BELIEVE what is going on. I had a girl that tried this crap on me about 4-5 years ago. She had excuses, blah, blah, blah. In the end, I hated her and couldn't stand her lying ways. She never cheated on me physically, but I know she did mentally. Sounds like what is going on in your situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyber Pimp Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 OJ was the wife beater... not this guy.... :paranoid: LOL, Im talking about sex. Are you having sex with her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Munchkin76 Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 I think that you two need to sit down and talk. Tell her that you are feeling betrayed and you want honest answers. If she can't look you in the eye or hems and haws, get up and leave. How did you find out about all of this? Did she eventually tell you or did you find out another way? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeorama Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 LOL, Im talking about sex. Are you having sex with her? I was just messing with you from the other thread... :laugh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarge Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 She's playing games dude. You're 19. Kick her to the curb and go have some fun If she has feelings for you, she'll come back around. If not, you know you made the right choice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Air Force Cane Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 "I remember some of your other threads on this. Is this the girl that lives in Mass? Dude, you are so far away from her if you are already jealous it won't work out." If this is the same guy- go back and read what my reply to your earlier thread about moving up there. you are freaking 19 years old!! you should be worrying about college, your career, your future profession for the next 50 years. not some chick. have fun, play the field. don't settle down until you are in your late twenties or you are just begging for divorce.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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