This Topic jumped a bit.
Peter - Not sure why you are even posting? Whats you goal? Some of the generalizations you make are just incorrect. You have this theme that sports will not lead to "Success in life". How do you determine success? There are 200,000+ HS Sports coaches out there. Are their lifes not successful? There are prob close to 100,000 college sport coaches out there. How about the guy who played HS ball and college ball and now feels comfortable coaching his kids teams? Running camps? Are their life not successful? Did playing sports not have a impact on their life? How about the hundred of thousands people that work in the sports industry (Working for teams, journalism, stats, trainers, etc...) a overwhelming majority played sports. No impact?
Its a major generalization.
Anyway -Moving on to other questions - Someone asked for those of us who beleive our kids will play college - When did we start noticing. I have 2 different answers.
1 - At a young age athletic kids are good at every sport. At age 8, the kids who is good at football is also prob good at baseball is also good at soccer etc.... My son played football, soccer, and baseball - and early on we knew he was really good at baseball. (I never played, nor even liked baseball until he was born. But he fell in love with the game at age 4, watching Red sox vs O's on TV and seemed to find it magical. We learned the game together. But while he loved all sports, and loved football the most, it was clear he was better then most in baseball right off.
But to be honest -I never thought about him playing in college until right before his freshman year in HS. He always knew I was against year round sports and encouraged him to play more then one sport but at 13, he told me he wanted to focus only on baseball, he wanted to play the game as long as he could, and he wanted to figure out how to play in college.
I told him I would do what I could, but he had to make a choice, and remake it every year. I told him he could play baseball in HS and just have fun with it. Go to practices, enjoy the team, play hard and whatever happens happens. And i was perfectly ok with that (And yes Peter -Also told him I was 100% ok if he decided he was done with sports). OR - he could decide that he was gonna play after HS and he would do year round, travel, showcase, workouts, recruitment, etc...But that would take a lot of work and dedication and would 100% effect other aspects of his HS life (Social).
He told me he wanted to find out how good he could be and how long he could play. And was willing to do whatever it took. I told him I was in but that he could change his mind anytime.
Since then - he has done what he said. and it DOES effect his social life. Very often he has to decline some social event because he of a tournament, or early batting practice, or whatever. However -He is also still having fun with Baseball. His BF's are all on one of his teams. He is the happiest when he is on the field playing.
And when his grades dropped in HS (Because he got a GF, not because of Baseball) it was his HS coach who sat him down and said "Your grades will stop you from playing college ball" that turned it around. Not anything his mom or I did.