Not sure I follow what you are talking about. It's myself (35), wife (37), 5yo, 3yo, 2yo, baby coming in January.
Our BCBS is not through work since we both are self employed. Costs prior to Obamacare were $800ish per month, now they will be $1150 per month for the same plan. We make to much to qualify for any of the gov't subsidies or tax credits towards health care so we either need to lower our plan (and increase our premium) or suck it up and eliminate $4200 in spending per year. None of our kids are unhealthy, my wife and I both qualified for the lowest tier on our life insurance (i.e. we are considered to be in above excellent health. lol)
My wife is actually beside me doing that now. Since she is in the medical field she handles all things associated with health care