KingGibbs Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 I need some honest opinions here. This Christmas I got a new suede leather recliner (burgundy of course) and it is unequivocally the most comfortable chair I have ever sat in. Well, today my wife calls me up and says that I need to be a good samaratin and let her ex-sister in-law's girlfriend's mother use it for a week or so because she broke her arm so severly that the doctor said she needs a recliner in order to sleep. Now, I do feel bad about her breaking her arm, but I am pissed at my wife for saying that I wouldn't mind w/out talking to me first. So basically, what I am asking you guys is, am I being irrational or reasonable about being pissed? Keep in mind it is a brand new recliner that is going to be used as a bed for about two weeks.:mad: :puke: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarge Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 How long have you been married? This will go a long way toward my answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
101_proof Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 ex-sister in-law's girlfriend's mother Did I read that right? If your wife bought you the chair fork it over with a smile. If your best friend bought you that chair (highly unlikely) tell her go to rentacenter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
endzone_dave Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 Damn, that sucks partner. I don't see any way out of this one. Women will always put you in situations like this. Just remember, women: you can't live with 'em, you can't kill 'em. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsNumberOne Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 I would say you are being reasonable. I like how you have the six degrees of separation between you and the person you would be helping out... It seems pretty reasonable to me to expect that you would both talk to each other before something like this was decided- and it's particular vexing when it's clearly something you have been enjoying a lot. I don't see that it matters in that regard who gave it to you, although of course it is slightly less bad if your wife herself gave it to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WallyG3 Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 The fact that it is for your wife's ex-sister in-law's girlfriend's mother is the clincher. That's pretty comical. Not to mention that your wife volunteered your new man-throne without asking your first. No way are you being irrational!!! Send her broke ass to rent-a-center! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GSF Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 For your mother in law you would have to give up the chair, but for your wife's ex-sister in-law's girlfriend's mother, hell no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheDane Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Sounds to me like a classic case of claiming a gift you've given. The non-politically correct term is "indian giver." I sympathize with your anger. Sorry man, that's a bummer of a situation. Not to mention a logistical pain in the rear. Unless you can get something out of it - like a week at the mother's beach house on Ebiza or first dibs on the family's authentic original Monet - I would fight this hard. Easy out that saves you and your wife face: say that the recliner broke and doesn't recline any more, you need to send it in to get fixed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan T. Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 My Barco Lounger is getting a little worn out. Can I borrow your chair after your wife's ex-sister in-law's girlfriend's mother is done with it? I'm probably closer to you than she is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KingGibbs Posted February 10, 2004 Author Share Posted February 10, 2004 Originally posted by Sarge How long have you been married? This will go a long way toward my answer. A year and a half. She's a great woman but man did she touch a nerve. Now I am being labled as "selfish":rolleyes: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jay Master Jay Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 I would say no that my heart goes out to her but it's not my problem. I would talk to whomever is volunteering me and asked that she asked me before giving the okay on something like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarge Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 I would say if you were from West Virginia, then clan rules apply, which would me giving up the chair. If you have a good marriage, she'll get over your "selfiness" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KingGibbs Posted February 10, 2004 Author Share Posted February 10, 2004 Originally posted by Dan T. aka Dan g slice My Barco Lounger is getting a little worn out. Can I borrow your chair after your wife's ex-sister in-law's girlfriend's mother is done with it? I'm probably closer to you than she is. :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JC Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Simple solution Fork over the cash to pay for a rental at rent-a-center. This way you keep your Chair, but nobody can acuse you of being selfish. Remember your talking about letting a stranger sleep in your chair for a week or more. Thier is a health issue, who knows what diseases she may have (Thier are health department regulations in most states that forbid the selling of used mattresses because of this concern). She also could be a slob and splill god knows what on your new chair, or she could just break it. I would not do it, too much risk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TLusby Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Let her have her way since it is a small favor. Act like you will do anything to make her happy. Make sure you get something bigger down the road. That's how it works. "Oh, honey I didn't think you would mind the missing $800 in the checking account for the awsome Skins seats for my budddies and I this weekend. Maybe you should watch the game over at your friends that still have our recliner!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Say no. I don't see why you can't say no? There are millions oif people in this world who have recliners. I have one that I'd give up in a heart beat for her, but if I had a new one that I paid good $ for, that was good leather and was BURGUNDY, I would tell every recliner-want-to-borrower to f*ck off!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedskinsFanInTX Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Take up a collection from everyone that thinks you should let her use it. Then buy her one and keep yours! here is my donation:2cents: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Montilar Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 I had one of the folding redskin lounge chairs. (wood frame; cloth seat kinda like a director's chair but it was more like a lounging deck chair) Had an ex-roomate's sister and her boyfriend want to stay at my place to avoid hotel costs while they were up here. I said okay. After they left and went back, I went to sit in the redskin chair. It collapsed under me, as her boyfriend had apparently broken the wood frame, then "pieced" it back together to hide the fact. And was gutless. He didn't tell me, nor did she. To this day I've not got an apology or an admittance of the fact they broke it. they've also never stepped inside my house either. Lending out your chair (er NEW chair) could turn out ok. but as was said they could spill something. Or rip it. Do they wear depends? :laugh: But that's marriage. somethings you have to give up, er compromise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NASMTrainer Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Not only No, but Hell No Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In Flames Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Originally posted by TheDane Sounds to me like a classic case of claiming a gift you've given. The non-politically correct term is "indian giver." I sympathize with your anger. Sorry man, that's a bummer of a situation. Not to mention a logistical pain in the rear. Unless you can get something out of it - like a week at the mother's beach house on Ebiza or first dibs on the family's authentic original Monet - I would fight this hard. Easy out that saves you and your wife face: say that the recliner broke and doesn't recline any more, you need to send it in to get fixed. aka politically incorrect. :rotflmao: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In Flames Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Originally posted by IAMBG Say no. I don't see why you can't say no? There are millions oif people in this world who have recliners. I have one that I'd give up in a heart beat for her, but if I had a new one that I paid good $ for, that was good leather and was BURGUNDY, I would tell every recliner-want-to-borrower to f*ck off!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol, that last sentence sounds like a good Real Men of Genius commercial. :rotflmao: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ax Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Originally posted by Skin-N-NY Not only No, but Hell No Followed by "Have you lost your f*ckin' mind" Ex sister-in-law's girlfriend? Out of the question. Stand your ground. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KingGibbs Posted February 10, 2004 Author Share Posted February 10, 2004 Bad news guys. The chair is gone. They "stopped" by lastnight to pick it up and left me in an uncompromising position. I think it was very apparent to them that I was not exactly thrilled to give up my "man throne". Of course I got the old "your a good man for doing this". I know it is only a chair, but damnit it's also part of my Skins shrine. I don't know maybe I am acting like a five year old brat like the wife suggested. But atleast my mother sided with me on this one and that really shocked the heck out of me. Anyone gotta a tissue. :mad: :puke: :twitch: :hammer: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carlsbadd Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Sounds like you got punked on this one. I would have a talk to the wife about this, don't let her play the "selfish" BS against you. Your wife was selfish when she told them it was OK to use the chair without asking you. Turn things around on her, tell her it is selfish to volunteer your things with considering your feelings. Note: Most men could care less about "feelings" but I have found it works like a charm when you sneak it into a argument. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dexter's Better Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 I would blow my stack if this happened to me. You don't just give out your spouses belongings to some person who isn't even related to you. The fact that they stopped by indicated to me this was premeditated and decided upon without your input. In other words your wife never "asked" you. She may have put it to you like a question but in fact it was already decided and agreed that the chair was gone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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