The Parenting Thread II - Advice, Tips, Etc

[tshile]

I strongly believe in trust and respecting privacy. I also know first hand that barriers don’t stop you and in my personal experience more barriers leads to more dangerous … fun. I get people say this tongue and cheek but for me and a few friends were each lucky we didn’t die. It wasn’t just the increased danger it was the increased frequency over time. Wife and I decided early on being honest and focusing on education on certain topics was our path, not ruling with an iron fist and using punishment as a deterrent 

 

that said I have a family we’re friends with and one of theirs was eventually discovered to be in active contact with a predator and while there was never a meet up that was the next step. So pictures and such occurred. 
 

 

Anyways. Privacy and trust are important. 
 

so is protecting your children. 

It’s a choose your own adventure for each of us. 

[Fergasun]

First breakup of my teenage son's life happened in late November.  It has been a month and there are days where he will go to his bedroom, close the door and cry.  We were binge watching TV with him (wife and I) for 3 hours and immediately went on a 20 minute errand.  When we came back she made a flippant/unsensitive comment through the bedroom door like "stop crying over that witch... " which triggered him into an angry curse tornado directed at her and violence against the door.  So now he has a broken door.  My wife is doing a lot better at letting most of the BS go and we were able to get him to open more. 

 

Families would be better without the people...

 

We are concerned they arent really broken up... but they don't talk amymore... or so it seems.  

[LadySkinsFan]

3 hours ago, Fergasun said:

First breakup of my teenage son's life happened in late November.  It has been a month and there are days where he will go to his bedroom, close the door and cry.  We were binge watching TV with him (wife and I) for 3 hours and immediately went on a 20 minute errand.  When we came back she made a flippant/unsensitive comment through the bedroom door like "stop crying over that witch... " which triggered him into an angry curse tornado directed at her and violence against the door.  So now he has a broken door.  My wife is doing a lot better at letting most of the BS go and we were able to get him to open more. 

 

Families would be better without the people...

 

We are concerned they arent really broken up... but they don't talk amymore... or so it seems.  

 

We know that break ups can be brutal, especially the first one. It helps if those doing the breaking up aren't demonized unless they really deserve it (criminal activity for one). Having been through the break up getting back together dance late in life, it's hard at any time in life when we really want to believe that the original magic can be recaptured. 

 

So sorry for your son and his feelings. Crying and feeling blue are expected. Violence at hearing something you don't want to hear isn't. I still remember a break up in high school. He probably will too. It's just an event in the past.

[Renegade7]

Am I wrong this reminded me of my daughters trying to get my attention? 😂

 

 

[Llevron]

10 hours ago, Renegade7 said:

Am I wrong this reminded me of my daughters trying to get my attention? 😂

 

 

 

Same lol. My baby has been doing this. Easy way to tell if she's in a good mood is the roar followed by a little smile. Its really funny. I know she gets it from my mom too cause every time she comes back from over there she has learned a new sound. She was quacking like a duck for like 2 weeks too. And if you do it back she laughs. We can hear it on the baby monitor when she wakes up in the morning lol 

[PleaseBlitz]

My 2 year old is immune to Baby Shark and I am lost. 
 

[Renegade7]

9 hours ago, PleaseBlitz said:

My 2 year old is immune to Baby Shark and I am lost. 
 

 

Aye...reminds me of when I realized my oldest hated Cocomelon, would start crying when I put it on...

 

But she loved Dave and Ava so much the second she heard that theme song she could be dead ass asleep in her eating chair and it'd be like putting jumper cables to a dead car battery.

 

Anyways...there's clips on the internet of when Baby Shark started getting played in night clubs as a joke in 2019 (before these million and half variants and remixes showed up) and took me back to the Nationals championship run...simpler times...

 

Thanks for the trip down memory lane... : )

[Fergasun]

There's nothing better than watching your kids play sports. 

 

My son has been going through a rough patch and I see it on the basketball court -- he wears his emotion on his sleeve (traits from both parents) and he is dealing with lots of things that come out as anger. So it is stress inducing to see him have this "IDGAF" attitude, but I am also happy that he has some outlet to focus on.   I am happy he has teammates that are supporting him and he has an organized sport that pulls him out of where he's at. 

 

It's not like he plays in a competive HS league... it's just a simple rec league but he has about 7 or 8 games left and I will miss watching him play in these organized games.