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14 minutes ago, China said:

 

As I recall from my youth, kids that age are good about learning the card games, but the difficult part is holding the cards, especially so that nobody else can see them.


I mean yea, look at my kid. Card discipline is garbage.  
 

Dont even get me started on her lack of appreciation for position leverage. I ended up grounding her for a week. 

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I realize that for whoever answers my question, it is a dumb question....  

 

Our child’s teacher is working very hard and doing a great job. We’re getting gift cards for the regulars because we don’t have time to shop right now (wife is a little busy in the healthcare profession at the moment). All the daycare people, cleaning people, mailman (although he sucks so I might skip him), etc. 

 

can we get something for his teacher?

 

she deserves it. We want her to have it. She deserves way more than that. She’s doing a fantastic job. Couldn’t ask for more. 
 

feels like maybe that’s inappropriate?


like would that be a bad thing? Would she get in trouble? Just reject it? Etc?

 

 

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Teacher and parent chiming in here. I receive gifts from some families and not from plenty of others, and that's totally fine.

 

I think the two most common things are Christmas cookies and mugs, so those might be good ones to avoid. I've received everything from ties and dress socks to yankee candles to coupon books.

 

Honestly I love it when I just get like a small gift card to the local coffee shop or whatever. It's basically the family saying, "Thanks, let me buy you a drink."

 

The families that know me really well sometimes get me things like beer or funny math t-shirts or whatever, but obviously that demands a certain relationship.

 

All of that said, the most treasured things I receive are cards where the family and/or the student took the time to actually write a little note about how they appreciated my work.

 

Edit: And keeping the monetary value of any gift small is appropriate.

 

 

 

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9 minutes ago, tshile said:

I realize that for whoever answers my question, it is a dumb question....  

 

Our child’s teacher is working very hard and doing a great job. We’re getting gift cards for the regulars because we don’t have time to shop right now (wife is a little busy in the healthcare profession at the moment). All the daycare people, cleaning people, mailman (although he sucks so I might skip him), etc. 

 

can we get something for his teacher?

 

she deserves it. We want her to have it. She deserves way more than that. She’s doing a fantastic job. Couldn’t ask for more. 
 

feels like maybe that’s inappropriate?


like would that be a bad thing? Would she get in trouble? Just reject it? Etc?

 

 

 

Different counties have different rules on gift.  Our kids' school does a class gift coordinated by the room parent where voluntary, anonymous donations are pooled and gift cards purchased.  

 

If your child's class doesn't have a coordinated system like that, you can also reach out to the school administration to ask what is an acceptable practice in the county and the school.  We did once gift a little extra to the instructional assistant outside of the class gift, but did it anonymously through the front office because we felt a little funny about handing a gift directly (though a good teacher friend assured me that she would never have attached any improper motive or something in such a context and that the nice thank you note is treasured far more than the monetary gift).

 

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14 hours ago, tshile said:

can we get something for his teacher?

 

(a) Check the rules of your area.

 

(b) Keep it small and personal and only for the really special teachers.  When my son was young, and since we knew the special teachers celebrated X-mas, he hand painted a glass ornament.  Oh it always came out looking like someone vomited paint and sprinkles on a glass sphere, but it seemed well received.  When he got a little older, we made an ornament in the shop (e.g. music note for orchestra teacher)...honestly didn't need a shop for that since it was just a bunch of balsa wood, but it made him feel like he was "wood working".  Now that he's a teen we just default to getting socks.  Nice warm socks, preferably with some sort of joke.  His computer teacher was amazing so we found some socks with the old binary numbers joke on it, got those.

 

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Protip:  if your 5 year old is pouting about something or having a hissy fit (but short of a full blown meltdown), you can defuse them by looking them square in the face and repeatedly saying “don’t you laugh...don’t even think about laughing .... you better not” until you’ve broken their resolve and they laugh. 
 

Works every time. 

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