Men'sHealth: How Many Guys Cheat at Bachelor Parties?

[Bliz]

By cheating, I"m asssuming they mean sex and not something like a lap dance which isn't a big deal... in which case personally I don't believe the 1/3 number...

 

Only been to one strip club which was lap dance, but no touching privates and definitely no sex ... as I understand it, thats how most of the higher end clubs are if they want to stay in business

 

Not speaking from knowledge here.  But I assume if you are famous and/or have enough cash to throw around, you can get what you're looking for at most any club, high end or no.  The key being that you have enough money/influence that the owner of the club wants to set you up.

[Lombardi's_kid_brother]

why would you consider paying for it worse?

 

 

Because at that point, you are just involved in a calvacade of lies - emotional, financial, physical, etc.

[Mocountyskins]

For example when my dad was 17 and my aunt and uncle were 13 and 14, my Grandpa ran off with the next door neighbor to Florida. Didn't even give notice just left. Didn't even give my dad a dime for

 

college just left my Grandma who was a secretary to supply for 3 kids in the 70s.

 

I haven't seen my grandfather on that side in like 6 years. I don't care for him and I really don't care about him. I wasent even alive and I don't forgive him. When I think of my grandparents on my dads side all I think of is my grandma I dont even think of him. Its only her that I think about. I think my dad and aunt and uncle only recently in the last few years forgave him but I know my dad only would talk to him like twice a year before and know a little more because my grandfather is getting sick and old. I only talk to him on my birthday and I always roll my eyes when I see his phone number calling, My sister and my brothers don't feel as passionitly on the subject as I do but I know that they also do not really care much about him and think what he did was terrible.

 

My grandma is an amazing person all she does is watch 182 Baseball games every year, all 82 Wizards games every year and all 16 Redskins games every year and goes to her local HS football games on friday nights and only listens to sports radio all day and talks about Baseball and Basketball and buys her grandchildren tickets to go to VT games and UMD games with her. She is amazing and you left her for some home wrecker neighbor and left my dad and my aunt and uncle when they were kids to just go get your nuts off. Just left my grandma to have to pay the full bill for the kids. Made my dad have to go on welfare to afford Penn State and my uncle had to go on wellfare to afford VT and my aunt the youngest didn't even get to go to college because there was no money left. He ruined a family imo so maybe I am bias because I have a dog in the fight. But yes if your ruin family then I want nothing to do with you. this was 20 something years before I was born and I havent forgave him

But I guess if my dad can start to forgive him after like 30+ years then maybe it means I should not be as hard. ITs just a touchy subject I guess. I understand what you guys are saying about having to forgive and can't hold grudges against people. Maybe its just that we are thinking about different things for example wheen you think of cheating you might think of a one time thing with a co worker and no one got hurt but all I can think about is my grandmother get left in the dust having to take care of my dad, aunt and uncle by herself thats what my mind goes to when I hear cheating which is a way worse level then what Im sure some of you guys are thinking abou. I automatically go to the worse type of cheating because that happened in my family I guess so idk I just go right to that way or "Oh cheating, so and so must of left their children and ran off forever"

[Duckus]

Only been to one strip club which was lap dance, but no touching privates and definitely no sex ... as I understand it, thats how most of the higher end clubs are if they want to stay in business

 

I am not a strip club fan, but have been to a few for various bachelor parties and college trips. I figured the sex thing was mostly BS.

 

But a few years ago I became friends with a guy who basically does it all the time. He lives in Houston and makes very good money. He probably goes to strip clubs more than anybody I know. Travels for work constantly and goes to at least one or more a week. Spends insane amounts of cash and isn't ashamed to pay for sex and talk about it. He is a terrible, terrible human being...and a good friend. In 20 years this guy is going to be a gross ex-pat in Southeast Asia having sex with 18 year old, I can almost guarantee it. 

 

Anyhow, hey says almost all strippers have a price. Even at the best clubs. You just have to know what you are doing. Yes, there are exceptions, but a shockingly high percentage will do "extras" supposedly. 

[twa]

actually...at that point, you would be the home wrecker.  Nothing is more important than family, and that is why it is important enough to stick with family, and get past the hurdles that we all face in life.  That isn't taking a principled position, that is burning down your house because the curtains are dirty.  

 

I think you are right, my parents divorced after my father cheated and while it certainly changed my opinion of him(and relations with) we still remained family.

I still hold a grudge after he has been dead for a decade,but hold many good things as well.

[mcsluggo]

mo-co, what you are describing doesn't sound like infidelity, it sounds like someone who poured gas on his life, lit a match and left.

 

for what its worth, i've never been unfaithful to my wife, and i don't believe that she has ever been unfaithful either.  But I know that what we have is important enough to fight for, and if i found out she HAD been unfaithful we would do our best to get past that together...    

[Dr. Do Itch Big]

Sapphires!

[Mocountyskins]

Thats why I get so mad when I think of cheating I just can't help but think of my dad and grandma getting left in the dust thats just the first thing my mind goes to

[Gamebreaker]

For my bachelor party my Groomsmen and I did paintball all day. It was awesome. None of them even asked me if I wanted strippers or wanted to go to a strip club, they knew me well enough to know my answer would be no. 

 

This may be my opinion, and if somone doesn't like it tough stripper titties, but if you cheat on your bachelor party you shouldn't get married. You're not ready for the commitment. Now I'm not saying someone can't grow up, mature and become a great husband and father afterwards. But rarely does that happen, and you're essentially playing with fire. 

 

As Moco has said numerous times in this thread, adultery ruins marriages, ruins families. The people who indulge in it are short-sighted, immature people who don't full understand the depths of pain they would be causing spouse and children if their actions were known. Any excuses to try and justify it is bull****. 

 

And we all know what cheating is, if you can't do it with your significant other looking at you than it's cheating. 

[Skinz4Life12]

And we all know what cheating is, if you can't do it with your significant other looking at you than it's cheating. 

 

Based on your definition, I think cheating would include lapdances

[Bliz]

And taking a dump

[Gamebreaker]

Based on your definition, I think cheating would include lapdances

 

That depends on if your wife/significant other would have a problem with it. I know couples that wouldn't have a problem with that. My point with that sentence is cheating is dependent upon that specific relationship, and you know what she would and would not be cool with. 

[twa]

And taking a dump

save it for marriage

[Momma There Goes That Man]

You have to set boundaries so hopefully you know going in if a lap dance would be considered cheating. I wouldn't do it and I sure wouldn't want my wife receiving one.

I sort of had two bachelor parties, one was a trip to a DC strip club (don't remember the name) which mostly consisted of drinking with my best man all night while ugly women danced in the background. This was my first and only experience in a strip club so I did make it rain on one of them which was probably the most uncomfortably awkward thing I've ever done in public. I only hope she was as embarrassed as I was.

The other consisted of the night prior to my wedding my groomsmen took me to Roanoke (got married at Smith Mountain Lake) and we got completely trashed in some club. Probably more wasted than I've ever been and I don't even know how it happened. I barely remember anything though I'm told I cleared the dance floor during Holy Grail and later motor boated a cougar in front of two cops while I was being carried back to the car. Honestly I'm pretty ashamed about the motor-boating incident. Wish I hadn't done it. The night was capped off with passing out at the house we rented on the lake, waking up eating a pound of chicken wings that my buddy cooked the night before and throwing up, working out and eating pizza to get my head right and then I was fine. It was a weird night/early morning.

As you can tell, I'm not the best person to ask about bachelor party activities.

Also I agree with everything Taze said in this thread.

[Forehead]

My bachelor party was a 24 hour alcohol fueled bender in Atlantic City, plenty of gambling broken up by a Charlie Murphy stand up show and food.  Some of the guys talked about getting strippers but I didn't have much interest.  Did have an amusing moment where my brother in law was propositioned by an older woman on the street who was drunk and missing a few teeth...promised to give him a night he wouldn't forget.  He respectfully declined, but we ragged on him for awhile.  It was a great time.

 

Someday, I'll tell the story of the bachelor party where we accidentally wound up at Medieval Times.

[pjfootballer]

mine sucked

 

 

I wouldn't really call mine a bachelor party.  After the wedding rehearsal dinner, all the grooms and one of my best friends (who couldnt be in the wedding) and dad when out to a pub and drank and shot the ****.  When my dad left, they wanted to take me to a strip club and I declined, went home.

 

Wouldn't change a thing today and would do it the same way as before.

 

My best friend from college was supposed to be my best man.  I was his best man at his wedding.  He lives in Reisterstown and I was living in West Palm Beach at the time.  He was unable to come down due to trouble at his job.  So I said, OK, you'll still be my best man, but my Dad will stand in for you.  So, long story short, most of my friends were living in other parts of the country and couldn't make it, so no bachelor party.  But, like you guys, I really didn't want a huge party or even anything. I was 36, so I wasn't interested in getting drunk and going to a strip club.  Our wedding was small (less than 50 people anyway) and intimate, so it wasn't a big deal not to have a bachelor party.  Hell, my best friend didn't want all that crap either and we ended up going to hooters for wings, watching sports and drinking a few beers. Then, we went back to his apartment and just shot the **** most of the night remembering our younger, single days.