Ellis Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 I was taught to always shake with the right hand and to look in the other persons eyes when doing so. Handshakes should always be firm without crushing the other persons hand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MintHillSkinsFan Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 I hate when people think a firm handshake is when you try to crush the opther guys fingers, yes I am very large and have large hands but I also have fingers that have been broken many times, impress someone else with your awesome grip. a firm handshake is good, a grip contest is not. This. There is this guy that I deal with on a business level that feels like he has to crush your hand when he shakes. He's literally only about 5'3" tall so it's obvious why he does it but it's still annoying as hell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkHog Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 I have had two major elbow surgeries on my right arm but I still feel shaking with your left hand is just weird. When I was injured/recovering I would offer my left hand upside down and then always say "Sorry, I just had surgery" or whatever to explain. Now that my elbow is better I always shake right handed in formal situations but still always go lefty for fist bumps, high fives, or if I suspect some elaborate bro shake is coming up. Hand shakes are important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skin'Em84 Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 I hate it when you miss the hand. It's quite depressing actually, but there has been a couple of times when I'd go to shake someone hand and completely miss. It's on par with whiffing a high five or accidentally dating a dallas fan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d0ublestr0ker0ll Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 It's awkward not knowing if a person will do this: Or this: I almost always go with the first one unless the person I'm talking to is clearly going to use the second one. You can judge by how "hip" the person is, for lack of a better term. I've absolutely been caught fumbling with the position I want to shake hands in. Extending my arm with my hand straight out, while they go over the top with a super-cool overhand "give me some skin" ****. Woops! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SnyderShrugged Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 I think this is way overblown. I always try to give a firm handshake. But I've always found it ridiculous that so much is made over people that don't. Its a friggin' HANDSHAKE for gawd's sake. It doesn't mean you are weak if you don't give a firm one. Doesn't mean you are Hercules if you DO give a firm one. Just stupid. overblown or not, first impressions are everything, especially in the business world and a weak handshake starts you off at a level below a strong one. I wish it wasnt how our society worked, but it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubble Screen Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 overblown or not, first impressions are everything, especially in the business world and a weak handshake starts you off at a level below a strong one. I wish it wasnt how our society worked, but it is. If someone bases their opinion of you (and not your work) off a stupid handshake then they are a douchebag, plain and simple. Like I said, I usually try to give a firm handshake. But if someone doesn't, im certainly not going to hold it against them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
USS Redskins Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 This reminded me of a thing that happened at church when I was a teenager... (for non-catholics - the kiss of peace is when you shake peoples hands at church)... during the kiss of peace my brother put his hand out to shake a fellow church goers hand... the guy put out his left hand.. my brother motioned with his right hand as if to say: "how about the right?".. the guy said, "well, cant really use this one.." and he turned to show is right hand was all disformed and shriveled... kind of like a babys hand that never developed... (This would only happen to my brother).. we both shook his left hand and quickly took off. That sucked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praise_gibbs Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 Ever go round for round on deciding to give a dap (fist bump) or handshake? You extend your hand for a handshake and they go in for the dap. You change it up and go for the dap while they change it to a handshake? Now that is awkward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
China Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 A little history: handshakes were originally always done with the right hand. Why? Because that was your sword hand. By shaking hands with the sword hand it was a gesture of peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Botched Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 It's awkward not knowing if a person will do this:Or this: I almost always go with the first one unless the person I'm talking to is clearly going to use the second one. You can judge by how "hip" the person is, for lack of a better term. I've absolutely been caught fumbling with the position I want to shake hands in. Extending my arm with my hand straight out, while they go over the top with a super-cool overhand "give me some skin" ****. Woops! Don't ever do the second one unless you're a 19 year old frat boy. It's immature and looks ridiculous IMO. I can't stand when I go for a normal shake and the other person goes for the "cool" one. Our hands always meet in some awful entanglement of fingers and wrists. I hate that crap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
China Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 Oh, if you want to mess with someone, keep holding their hand, very awkward. Of course the counter to that move is to pull their hand towards your crotch. Anyone who gives a lingering handshake will let go at that point...unless they're into that sort of thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Die Hard Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 It's awkward not knowing if a person will do this: Or this: I almost always go with the first one unless the person I'm talking to is clearly going to use the second one. I think it's pretty clearly detailed in the picture... that handshake #2 is reserved when greeting black people. I've always prefer to keep it simple and go with handshake #1. Too many variations to these types of greetings (fist pump, handshake #2 with a chest bump, handshake #2 with a hug, handshake #2 with finishing variations like palm grazing, etc). I'll never forget when one of the guys I coach with - who is black -- greets me with a handshake... and then brought me in for a hug. I just let him lead once I realized he wasn't going to do a normal handshake and I had no idea what he was about to it. So he brings me in for a hug... and I'm just along for the ride. After he releases... he says "Wow, that was a totally uncomfortable hug... like you suddenly realized you were about to get hugged by a black guy" We both laughed hysterically -- he's all about racial humor and is very comfortable with it. We both thought it was hysterical for different reasons though. I thought it was hysterical that he interpreted my body language as that... when the truth is I just have no idea what the hell I was doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forehead Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 Yeah, people who death-grip you are idiots, the worst is when they death-grip you, squeeze like a vice, and then try to stare at you so YOU KNOW what they're doing. Congrats Atlas, you just made me want to stab you in the throat. Seriously, I have a firm enough handshake, I feel no need to start trying to snap a bone in someone's finger. I actually read in some men's magazine that a trick is to always make sure your thumb is the one on top during a handshake, it sends dominance signals and will cause people to defer to you on decisions. Sounds like a load of B.S. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcsluggo Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 what i hate are the bungholes that play the game of moving slowly in as if for a normal shake, and then at the last second sweep in fast and hard and try to QUICKLY break out the atlas power grip before the other person is ready. Obviously if you squeeze a hand hard that isn't also squeezing, it crumples. That is VERY macho indeed. I got this alot when i was a snotnosed early-twenty-something civilian working for the corps of engineers from ******** old uniformed officers that seemed to ALWAYS have something to prove about somethingthehellIcaredlittleabout. It only works for the first one or two crusty old bastages, because you can only do it if the other party isn't EXPECTING you to be a flaming prick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcsluggo Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 by the way... the BEST solution to the overly atlas grip is to do the little finger tip tickle to atlas' palm as they disengage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shuler74 Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 ^ lol lol was about to post something like that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KingGibbs Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 Perhaps he just got done "shaking it" with his right hand and was just trying to be considerate? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rdsknbill Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 My Grandfather and Father always taught me to give a firm handshake and look the person in the eye. As China pointed out. It was a "sword hand thing" way back in the day. Left hand or "dead fish" is creepy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peeping Wizard Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 I've participated in many handshakes over the years and have never put as much thought into them as you guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Die Hard Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 I've participated in many handshakes over the years and have never put as much thought into them as you guys. Exactly. Besides, everyone knows that a true judge of character is observed in the way a person blinks their eyes. There's no 2nd chances there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SnyderShrugged Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 If someone bases their opinion of you (and not your work) off a stupid handshake then they are a douchebag, plain and simple. Like I said, I usually try to give a firm handshake. But if someone doesn't, im certainly not going to hold it against them. Glad for ya, though your opinion on the matter doesnt change reality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ned Flanders Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 I have naturally clammy hands, so I freakin hate shaking people's hands because I don't want to disgust them. I often wipe my hands on my pants leg prior to the shake. Is that just plain Gross? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sacase Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 Glad for ya, though your opinion on the matter doesnt change reality. I second your opinion. If another man gives me a weak handshake, I automatically feel I can dominate the situation and I do. Body language says alot. Handhsakes just take us back to our animal instincts of proving who is the dominent male. Funny thing is, when women give overly firm handshakes I think they are trying to overcompensate for something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Die Hard Posted July 6, 2010 Share Posted July 6, 2010 If another man gives me a weak handshake, I automatically feel I can dominate the situation and I do. What happens if it's a tie? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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