Do you and your significant other go to bed at the same time?

[rdsknbill]

I'm a night owl and rarely get tired before midnight. My wife on the other hand has transformed into a person that is out cold by 11 at the latest. It doesn't bother me at all but it seems to bother her and I'm receptive to that. I try to go to bed early but I end up staring at the ceiling for literally 2 hours. The worst part is that I have an over active mind and I tend to work whenever the thought enters my head. In my world it would be perfectly normal to get up at 1am and put together a plan for next tuesday.

I'm not the type to take sleeping pills (or any pills) unless I need them badly. Is this normal? Do you people in redskin land all go to bed at the same time as your spouses/gf?

... and people we are talking about sleeping here.

I am the EXACT same way. My wife used to stay up late , but now does the same thing.

She seems to get a little irritated but it's no big deal.

[LaxBuddy21]

We generally go to bed the same time too but thats because our work schedules are similar. On the weekends, I tend to be up later than she is and she has a hissy fit thinking I need to go to bed at the same time as her. I told her if she really thinks its a problem then she needs to stay up as late as me! Either way, I dont let her dictate my sleep pattern. I go to bed when im ready to go to bed regardless. Its up to her if she chooses another time to go to bed.

[Kosher Ham]

As others have stated, I have no problem laying down with my girl until she goes to sleep. Once she is asleep, even if she wakes up it is only for a minute.

[matty dread]

My wife and I have always been on different sleep schedules. She's more of an early to bed/morning person while I've always been up late and sleep in kind of guy. We might go to bed together 1 or 2 nights a week if I'm really tired and give in, but usually I'm up late while she's fast asleep by 9 or 10.

[TheGreatBuzz]

I have to get up for work at 5 am. My wife gets up a little before me. I still don't go to sleep until around 11 pm but she is usually out around 9 pm. She will fall asleep on the couch and when I am ready to go to bed I wake her up and we go to bed.

honestly, it drives me nuts because once she falls asleep on the couch I have to stay somewhat quiet or she complains. I've told her once she gets sleepy, go to bed and I'll come in when I'm ready but she refuses. Some nights when I feel like making a point, I'll leave her on the couch and go get the bed to myself.

[Major Harris]

I'm a night owl and rarely get tired before midnight. My wife on the other hand has transformed into a person that is out cold by 11 at the latest. It doesn't bother me at all but it seems to bother her and I'm receptive to that. I try to go to bed early but I end up staring at the ceiling for literally 2 hours. The worst part is that I have an over active mind and I tend to work whenever the thought enters my head. In my world it would be perfectly normal to get up at 1am and put together a plan for next tuesday.

I'm not the type to take sleeping pills (or any pills) unless I need them badly. Is this normal? Do you people in redskin land all go to bed at the same time as your spouses/gf?

... and people we are talking about sleeping here.

man destino, you just described me and my wife. except she's stopped nagging me about coming to bed.

[jpillian]

Wife and I usually hit the hay at the same time: between 10:30-11:00 PM. The kids have knocked the crap out of the night owl tendencies I used to have. The guarantee of waking up at 6:30 AM really has helped us reform our sleep habits.

As of late, we've also been praying together before we go to sleep at night and after we wake up in the morning. Great way to share your concerns as a couple and stay encouraged.

[Zguy28]

Yeah, I used to think along those lines too. That's part of the frustrating aspect of the whole thing, people who haven't experienced sleep issues think it's all about discipline. Sure, some of it can be addressed through behavioral modification, but if you just throw that out as a catchall remedy, I honestly don't think that's the entirety of the issue. Some people are just wired differently.

For example, somewhere when I turned 15ish, I started having major issues falling asleep. I would cry at night because I was so pissed off at not being able to fall asleep. My parents always had a regular, early bedtime for me and my siblings growing up, but I was the one kid in the family who had a bit different internal clock. My parents both said they noticed it in me as a teenager.

http://www.sleepeducation.com/Article.aspx?id=49

[Zguy28]

My wife generally goes to bed before me since my snoring keeps her awake.

However, lately it has been the opposite. My wife has been suffering from a bout of migraines which we think may be related to some mold exposure and has trouble sleeping.

[Special K]

http://www.sleepeducation.com/Article.aspx?id=49

Interesting article Zguy, thanks for the link. I've never really heard much about that type of therapy so it was a good read.

[Spanky22]

Looks like I can join the chorus here of people who's wives go to bed earlier and need a lot more sleep. My wife is passing out by 930 or 10 while I literally can not go to sleep before 1130pm-1am. Originally, this upset her, but we figured out (as others in this thread have as well) that if I get in bed and read a book with her and wait until she falls asleep, I can then go back to the computer or keep reading or whatever until I am tired and ready to sleep.

Also, to the person who said its a discipline thing, I'll just go ahead and disagree with you. Ive been a night person my entire life, even in middle school and high school. My bedtime would come and I wouldnt be able to fall asleep, just tossing and turning. I figured out at that point that I just need a lot less sleep than some people. I feel the best on 6-7 hours of sleep. More than 8 and I feel drowsy all day. My wife, on the other hand, needs 8-10. So, in high school I would just 'go to bed' and stay up reading or playing guitar or whatever and go to bed when I was tired, which was usually around midnight.

It works for me. Its just my body's natural rhythm. Discipline isnt going to change it.

[Xameil]

I'm a night owl as well. She doesn't have a problem with my going to bed later then her. That said, I try and goto bed the same time as her a few times a week. She tries to stay awake with me as well.

[Bang]

Nah, my wife is always out before me. I usually can't sleep before 1 or 2

~Bang

[RabidFan]

Nah, my wife is always out before me. I usually can't sleep before 1 or 2

~Bang

Me too....but she is such a sound sleeper that I can have tv on and go to sleep to that every night....to prevent me from being interested in what is on, i always play a familiar movie either on tv or playing live. In college i would go to sleep to a vhs tape of Blazing Saddles every night....vhs...those were the days.

[Destino]

Here's to the night owls!

Didn't expect to see so many of you. lol

[GhostofSparta]

I'm in the night owl who married and early crasher crowd. It used to make sense, as up until last October I worked night shift at a pizza place and she worked morning shift at Walmart. But now I work 2 jobs, as a substitute teacher whenever I get the call and night shift at the same pizza place, but only 4 days a week (Wed-Sat). But even after a couple months of getting calls at 5 AM, and having to be up around 6 (before she has to be awake, which is around 7), I still find myself unable to sleep much before midnight whereas she always crashed around 9:30. I guess she just needs more sleep than I do. Luckily we solved the "I can't fall asleep in bed at night without you there" drama by inhereting a recliner from my parents when they upgraded furniture last year so she can sleep on it in the living room while I watch TV until I'm ready for bed.

[Ax]

Yeah, I used to think along those lines too. That's part of the frustrating aspect of the whole thing, people who haven't experienced sleep issues think it's all about discipline. Sure, some of it can be addressed through behavioral modification, but if you just throw that out as a catchall remedy, I honestly don't think that's the entirety of the issue. Some people are just wired differently.

For example, somewhere when I turned 15ish, I started having major issues falling asleep. I would cry at night because I was so pissed off at not being able to fall asleep. My parents always had a regular, early bedtime for me and my siblings growing up, but I was the one kid in the family who had a bit different internal clock. My parents both said they noticed it in me as a teenager.

I had a few sleep issues when i was just a pup. Mostly the mind doing 190mph thinking about whatever popped into my head. I fixed it. Now, it takes me less than 5 minutes to fall asleep.

Most worrying seems to be about **** you can't control if you wanted to. Accepting that, and finding peace with it, is the key. The other is always doing your level best, knowing you have, and accepting the results, whatever they may be. I sleep well.

Now, the wife has had, and at times, still has sleep issues. We've dealt with them, together, as long as we've been together. So, I do have a working knowledge of some of the issues.

I don't know you, but if I were to fancy a guess, I'd say the sleep issues are simply the RESULT, of what the actual problem is, and not the problem itself. Identify, and remedy that, and the sleep issues will eventually dissipate.

No, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn once.

[pjfootballer]

Same as you Destino. My wife actually gets a little peaved that I don't go to bed at 9 or 10 o'clock. I need to stay up at least until midnight. Sometimes I'll go to bed at the same time, wait until she falls asleep and then turn the TV in the bedroom on. My wife is a sound sleeper so I just have to wait.

[pjfootballer]

:evilg:

That sucks, I hate apartments. Luckily my husband is dead to the world when he sleeps and never hears me (I always ask b/c of course I wouldn't do it if it bothered or woke him).

We live in a townhouse, and our neighbors, well, let's just say I don't give a crap if it disturbs them or not. Even before we moved in, OUR yard was their little personal doggie park (even though there's an empty field like, 100 yards away) and there's crap all over the place. We put up signs and everything letting them know people LIVE in the house now and please don't allow you dogs to run over and take a dookie on our lawn...yet the people STILL bring their damn dogs over to poop and pee all over the place. AND they throw their cigarettes in our driveway while they're waiting for their dog to do its business. AND they have parked in our spot on multiple occasions. So really, I couldn't care less if my vacuuming at 2am bothers them.

It's really too bad that all our other neighbors are great and we live in a good neighborhood...it just so happens we have a family of jackasses who live right next to us.

I'd buy a pooper scooper (or get a shovel) and fling all the poo back in their yard and I'd get a leaf blower and blow all the cigarette butts back in their driveway....and I'd do it at 2 AM!!! :evilg:

[Sweet Sassy Molassy]

Yeah, I used to think along those lines too. That's part of the frustrating aspect of the whole thing, people who haven't experienced sleep issues think it's all about discipline. Sure, some of it can be addressed through behavioral modification, but if you just throw that out as a catchall remedy, I honestly don't think that's the entirety of the issue. Some people are just wired differently.

For example, somewhere when I turned 15ish, I started having major issues falling asleep. I would cry at night because I was so pissed off at not being able to fall asleep. My parents always had a regular, early bedtime for me and my siblings growing up, but I was the one kid in the family who had a bit different internal clock. My parents both said they noticed it in me as a teenager.

Looks like I can join the chorus here of people who's wives go to bed earlier and need a lot more sleep. My wife is passing out by 930 or 10 while I literally can not go to sleep before 1130pm-1am. Originally, this upset her, but we figured out (as others in this thread have as well) that if I get in bed and read a book with her and wait until she falls asleep, I can then go back to the computer or keep reading or whatever until I am tired and ready to sleep.

Also, to the person who said its a discipline thing, I'll just go ahead and disagree with you. Ive been a night person my entire life, even in middle school and high school. My bedtime would come and I wouldnt be able to fall asleep, just tossing and turning. I figured out at that point that I just need a lot less sleep than some people. I feel the best on 6-7 hours of sleep. More than 8 and I feel drowsy all day. My wife, on the other hand, needs 8-10. So, in high school I would just 'go to bed' and stay up reading or playing guitar or whatever and go to bed when I was tired, which was usually around midnight.

It works for me. Its just my body's natural rhythm. Discipline isnt going to change it.

Yup! I've been this way since I was in elementary school when my parents used to make me lay down at 8/9pm, I'd just lay there staring at the ceiling for hours until I finally fell asleep around midnight or 1. Much like Spanky if I get too much sleep I'm thrown off for the entire day, I feel groggy and just out of it. Give me 5-7 hours and I'm good.

[Ax]

Also, to the person who said its a discipline thing, I'll just go ahead and disagree with you. Ive been a night person my entire life, even in middle school and high school. My bedtime would come and I wouldnt be able to fall asleep, just tossing and turning. I figured out at that point that I just need a lot less sleep than some people. I feel the best on 6-7 hours of sleep. More than 8 and I feel drowsy all day. My wife, on the other hand, needs 8-10. So, in high school I would just 'go to bed' and stay up reading or playing guitar or whatever and go to bed when I was tired, which was usually around midnight.

It works for me. Its just my body's natural rhythm. Discipline isnt going to change it.

Not needing as much sleep as others, knowing that, and coordinating your routine to work for you IS discipline.

From early teens until mid 40's, you could almost set your watch by how long I'd sleep before waking up.

4 hours. No matter how tired, drunk, stoned, or any combination of the three, and more, it's all I could sleep, and it's all I needed. Every other month, there'd be a day I'd sleep 8hrs, and feel like ****.

Now days, the average is closer to 5hrs. I get to bed between 11-12, and I usually wake up before the alarm goes off at 4am. If I fall asleep at 9, I'm up at 2am. I don't even try to go back to sleep.

Discipline, is knowing what you need to do, in order to get enough rest for work/school, and then doing it. Sounds like that's exactly what you're doing.

[Drop]

i wanna know how many of the self proclaimed "night owls" in here have young children. Deal with a 2 year old for a few hours in the evening....that'll get ya nodding by 9 or 10 pm.

[MassSkinsFan]

Night owl here too.

[Bubble Screen]

That sucks, I hate apartments. Luckily my husband is dead to the world when he sleeps and never hears me (I always ask b/c of course I wouldn't do it if it bothered or woke him).

We live in a townhouse, and our neighbors, well, let's just say I don't give a crap if it disturbs them or not. Even before we moved in, OUR yard was their little personal doggie park (even though there's an empty field like, 100 yards away) and there's crap all over the place. We put up signs and everything letting them know people LIVE in the house now and please don't allow you dogs to run over and take a dookie on our lawn...yet the people STILL bring their damn dogs over to poop and pee all over the place. AND they throw their cigarettes in our driveway while they're waiting for their dog to do its business. AND they have parked in our spot on multiple occasions. So really, I couldn't care less if my vacuuming at 2am bothers them.

It's really too bad that all our other neighbors are great and we live in a good neighborhood...it just so happens we have a family of jackasses who live right next to us.

Wow. No way I could put up with that. Have you talked to them, personally? Or to the HOA? (if there is one). Wait, isn't your husband a trained fighter?:evilg:

[twa]

i wanna know how many of the self proclaimed "night owls" in here have young children. Deal with a 2 year old for a few hours in the evening....that'll get ya nodding by 9 or 10 pm.

It was kids that changed my sleep patterns

I used to sleep a good eight hrs or more,now it is 4-5 tops