Destino Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I'm a night owl and rarely get tired before midnight. My wife on the other hand has transformed into a person that is out cold by 11 at the latest. It doesn't bother me at all but it seems to bother her and I'm receptive to that. I try to go to bed early but I end up staring at the ceiling for literally 2 hours. The worst part is that I have an over active mind and I tend to work whenever the thought enters my head. In my world it would be perfectly normal to get up at 1am and put together a plan for next tuesday. I'm not the type to take sleeping pills (or any pills) unless I need them badly. Is this normal? Do you people in redskin land all go to bed at the same time as your spouses/gf? ... and people we are talking about sleeping here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweet Sassy Molassy Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I'm a night owl and rarely get tired before midnight. My wife on the other hand has transformed into a person that is out cold by 11 at the latest. It doesn't bother me at all but it seems to bother her and I'm receptive to that. I try to go to bed early but I end up staring at the ceiling for literally 2 hours. The worst part is that I have an over active mind and I tend to work whenever the thought enters my head. In my world it would be perfectly normal to get up at 1am and put together a plan for next tuesday. I'm not the type to take sleeping pills (or any pills) unless I need them badly. Is this normal? Do you people in redskin land all go to bed at the same time as your spouses/gf? ... and people we are talking about sleeping here. I'm the exact same as you, glad I'm not the only one who can't just put their head on the pillow and be out. Just the same if something hits my head while in the bed I have to get up and work on it, at least to start the process, otherwise I'll stay up all night thinking about it. I'm terrible about going to sleep at any decent time. Anyway, my girl is a bit of a night owl too, nowhere near as bad as me though. It used to bug her when she would be laying in bed and I was still up and at it so sometimes I'll just lay in bed with her till she is out then go back to what I was doing. I think she's gotten used to it though because now when she's ready to go to sleep, she goes and doesn't really worry if I'm there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellis Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I'm exactly the same way... no matter how tired I am, I won't be asleep any earlier than 1:30am. It has been a strain on only 2 relationships I've had though, but they were overly needy women. I'm lucky to be dating someone with the same sleeping habits as I. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greenspandan Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 i'm the same as you guys. my wife is ready for bed at 10pm but i don't get tired until at least midnight. i'm rarely in bed before 1am, and often i'm up past 3am, to be honest. if i drink, i conk out much sooner, but i'm not really trying to turn into a drunk. if i go to bed at 10, then i lie there and without light or other stimulus, my mind goes round and round gathering speed until i'm virtually having panic attacks -- sweating and freaking out. it's extremely unpleasant. (i don't have anxiety issues at any other time) my wife wants me to get on medication. i very much prefer not to, but it is getting a little ridiculous, i admit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjah Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I too am a night owl. Going to sleep at the same time as my wife would lead to 2-3 hours of lying there awake, doing nothing and obsessing over the fact that I'm wasting massive amounts of time by lying there doing nothing. Even when I deliberately reset my internal clock to get up ultra-early, I still go to bed late. I'll get up at 5am and easily stay up until 3am. It seems like the earlier I'm up, the later I'm up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zCommander Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 Let me go ask my wife....oh wait she is already asleep. I work on servers remotely most of nights and so stay up late and also because of ES. She has to get up early to get the kids ready for school. (I have a tough life. ) As long as we spend some quality time together while we are awake is more important to us. Why don't you just go to sleep with her...wait for it...she falls asleep..and then you quietly go back to doing what you were doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweet Sassy Molassy Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I feel like in the Insomniac's Support Group. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
21cents Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I cant sleep at night. My normal time is 3-4am I have a problem : ( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheLongshot Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 As you can tell, I'm still up. My wife's in bed. It is partially because it is the way I operate, but it is also because it is one of the few alone opportunities I get, which is why I value it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No_Pressure Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 My dad is like you in the sense that he'll get up at 1 AM because a thought popped into his head about something for work. It's a recipe for success apparently. I am in school and currently I find it nearly impossible with all the distractions around me to get any real work done between the hours of 9:00 AM and 1:00 AM. Last semester was hard for my girlfriend, I stayed up until 6 am for about 3 weeks straight working on various things for classes. But hey I got A's and B's so no arguing. I find that she has an annoying habit of not only falling asleep early, but falling asleep while watching movies anywhere that isn't the movie theater. I asked her to watch (and stay awake for) Anatomy of a Murder and while she was enjoying it and said it was a really good movie, she missed about a 10-20 minute portion because she dozed off. I don't understand people that will watch a movie and not give it their full attention and consideration. She is also a napper. I guess a lot of women are. She takes naps. I can't. If I fall asleep before it's time for bed I'll stay asleep for hours, and if I wake up after 20 minutes to an hour or so I feel like the walking dead. She's always saying hey lets lay down and take a nap, and I'm like hey its ****ing 4:30 in the afternoon what the hell are you talking about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IONTOP Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 Sometimes, I'll be watching tv and my hand will fall asleep.... So no... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 You are not alone. I go to bed way after my husband. Somehow, he can force himself to go to sleep to wake up for early practices. I, on the other hand, am a total night owl; I have been one since I was a little child. For some reason, no matter what, no matter where in the world I am, no matter how early I got up, I will be up late until about 1 or 2 am. On bad days it's even later. It doesn't bother my husband, but not being able to go to sleep at a normal human's hour bothers the crap out of me. I've tried everything from exercising more, to cutting out the caffeine after 2pm, to sleeping pills. Even Ambien didn't work for me, it just made me go friggin bonkers. Somehow though, I have no problem sleeping during the day if my schedule allows :doh: I don't do it much anymore as that really makes me stay up late, but if I wanted to, at any time during the day I could take a nap. Then it hits dark, and I'm buzzing around like a lunatic. I joke all the time that I wish my college and grad. classes had been at midnight b/c then I could pay attention and be prodcutive. Everyone else in my family is normal, which makes it even more frustrating because they don't understand. Luckily my husband doesn't care, he's passed out while I'm up half the night organizing things, cleaning the house (yes, the vacuum cleaner has been known to run at odd hours), playing on ES, making lists, working on papers, etc. I can't go to bed until every loose end is tied up with school, work and house duties and everything's in perfect order and clean in the house. Been that way since I was really little. Well now, wasn't that just a nice little cathartic post. Looking back through it, I probably need to seek counseling, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HighOnHendrix Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 (yes, the vacuum cleaner has been known to run at odd hours) You don't live upstairs from me, do you? The folks up there like to run theirs at like 2 am. I wouldn't give a crap if it was just me, but sometimes it disturbs my wife and son when they are sleeping. Ah, the joys of apartment living... As to the OP: well, I work nights and my wife works days. 'Nuff said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G.A.C.O.L.B. Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I'm like you. I go to sleep HOURS after the wife. And like you I catch **** for it. Somehow me not sleeping early like her signifies me being lazy. Or something. Ignore the fact that we normally wake up at the same time and ignore the fact that I work the same hours as her plus some. No, me sleeping at 3 instead of 11-12 means I'm a lazy POS. Ah marriage, what a wonderful thing. Ah woman, what wonderful, logical, sane creatures. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 You don't live upstairs from me, do you? The folks up there like to run theirs at like 2 am. I wouldn't give a crap if it was just me, but sometimes it disturbs my wife and son when they are sleeping. Ah, the joys of apartment living...As to the OP: well, I work nights and my wife works days. 'Nuff said. That sucks, I hate apartments. Luckily my husband is dead to the world when he sleeps and never hears me (I always ask b/c of course I wouldn't do it if it bothered or woke him). We live in a townhouse, and our neighbors, well, let's just say I don't give a crap if it disturbs them or not. Even before we moved in, OUR yard was their little personal doggie park (even though there's an empty field like, 100 yards away) and there's crap all over the place. We put up signs and everything letting them know people LIVE in the house now and please don't allow you dogs to run over and take a dookie on our lawn...yet the people STILL bring their damn dogs over to poop and pee all over the place. AND they throw their cigarettes in our driveway while they're waiting for their dog to do its business. AND they have parked in our spot on multiple occasions. So really, I couldn't care less if my vacuuming at 2am bothers them. It's really too bad that all our other neighbors are great and we live in a good neighborhood...it just so happens we have a family of jackasses who live right next to us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baddog Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I guess I am the only morning person?? I get up at 4:00am, go in to work, brew my coffee, check and respond to emails, workout in the gym (yes- in the basement of my building), eat my oats, and get into the business of the day all by 8:00am. Problem is that my wife is the night owl. she likes to stay up late- so I am pressured to stay up well past the time I would like to go to bed. After years of 4-5 hours of sleep a night, 6 is a really good night, after 8:30pm, if i sit down and just relax on my big ol couch- I am very likely to doze off... but not if I am watching a movie or football or something that engages my mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeueRedskinWelle Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I'm not married, but I just get in bed with her till she goes to sleep and then get out of bed and go to sleep whenever I want. She has said she doesn't like me getting out of bed with her (Like i'm "leaving" her), but I think she secretly likes it because anytime she wakes up in the middle of the night I can get her water or whatever. However since I started working nights she hasn't said anything about it. Edit - Guess I should also mention there's a TV in the room. I'm not just laying there with my arm around her pushing her every couple of minutes to see if she's out, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeueRedskinWelle Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I guess I am the only morning person?? . Only one I know of Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twa Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I try to go to bed with her and just get up after she falls asleep if I am not sleepy. My sleep cycle is whacked Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gbear Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 I'm an 11pm to 5am person. My wife is an 11 hour of sleep person if she could. She used to be a morning person then she became a night person when working night shift. Now she just wants sleep period. There are times where I think she thinks I'm lazy because on lucky nights when all is done I will sit around on the computer for a few hours before bed at night. I try to remind her that she should just count that as rest time for me because that's what it is. That still only brings me to 8. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ax Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 Two people that love, and care about each other, will make due with whatever schedule it takes to make them happy, and well rested. Unless your parents allowed you to stay up until 2-3-4:00am, you MADE yourself a night owl. You can undo it, if you want. All it takes is the thing missing most in this country, Discipline. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeanCollins Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 wife usually nods at 9:30 or 10. It's 11-12 for me. No matter when, I'm only going to get 6 hours of sleep, so 12- 6 works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosher Ham Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 For me it doesn't matter when I go to sleep. I will wake up by 7-8 at the latest every single day. Even alcohol induced sleep. But typically, I am awake until at least 2. If not I am up around 4-5 at the latest. My girl can go to sleep at 8 P.M. and sleep until 8 A.M. with a bathroom break at some point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 Two people that love, and care about each other, will make due with whatever schedule it takes to make them happy, and well rested.Unless your parents allowed you to stay up until 2-3-4:00am, you MADE yourself a night owl. You can undo it, if you want. All it takes is the thing missing most in this country, Discipline. Yeah, I used to think along those lines too. That's part of the frustrating aspect of the whole thing, people who haven't experienced sleep issues think it's all about discipline. Sure, some of it can be addressed through behavioral modification, but if you just throw that out as a catchall remedy, I honestly don't think that's the entirety of the issue. Some people are just wired differently. For example, somewhere when I turned 15ish, I started having major issues falling asleep. I would cry at night because I was so pissed off at not being able to fall asleep. My parents always had a regular, early bedtime for me and my siblings growing up, but I was the one kid in the family who had a bit different internal clock. My parents both said they noticed it in me as a teenager. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Bay Posted February 19, 2010 Share Posted February 19, 2010 We generally go to bed at the same time. I'm the type that can fall asleep the moment my head touches the pillow, she's not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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