Forehead Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Sounds like me at 13....except I am not a boy...and I was not saying "I love you" Difference is, you did a lot more than you actually did, at least according to the stories they were telling about you in the locker room. As to the OP, not to bring up the stereotypes, but if this was a 13 year old girl you were mentoring, and she was hopping around to different boys, you'd probably be more worried. Most fathers or father figures probably would. Hell, MTH used to have straight hair. It's good to be a guy.:cool: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
81artmonk Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Wrong Ok, if so than please school me on how at 13 dating 3 different girls is a good thing for someone that age?? I'm dying to hear this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljs Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 In this day and age, just be thankful that he likes girls........ not sure what you mean by that, but the rate of STD's (including AIDS) is rising faster in young hetersexual adults and the geriatric group more than any other. It's the "gay disease" mentallity that is spreading the disease like crazy among all of the other groups. As to the OP, not to bring up the stereotypes, but if this was a 13 year old girl you were mentoring, and she was hopping around to different boys, you'd probably be more worried. Most fathers or father figures probably would. Hell, MTH used to have straight hair.. I agree. if this was a girl, all the "dad" would change their "high five" attitude to "oh ****, I'm going to kill those little ****s". Ok, if so than please school me on how at 13 dating 3 different girls is a good thing for someone that age?? I'm dying to hear this one. I tend to agree with 81 here. IF this kid is seriously engaging in any sort of sexual activity (and I'd tend to think just maybe since his sister was at that age), then it would indicate just maybe that he needs more guidance and supervision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RammsteinSkins Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Let him have fun, pimpin aint easy though, he will learn soon lol, I had 2 Yes. /thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RammsteinSkins Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 I tend to agree with 81 here. IF this kid is seriously engaging in any sort of sexual activity (and I'd tend to think just maybe since his sister was at that age), then it would indicate just maybe that he needs more guidance and supervision.Maybe he's just horny? Horomones are crazy at that age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monte51Coleman Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 After reading that other thread about teens I'd make sure he has some condoms. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Hell, yeah, I'd be worried. Any 13 year old kid who's dated three different women in three weeks obviously isn't my son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Travdaskin Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Yes. /thread. Thank you lol... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reic Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 a one week stint isn't "dating" but enough about semantics. it's middle school, man, just be happy he is pretending to be cool by being seen with a new girl every week than hitting up some crazy party and pulling a train on 7 of his classmates, hopping in his friend's mom's van that his friend stole then pulling out the Eiffel towel on two 16 year old cheerleaders from the jv squad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljs Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 what is funny is the convo I had with my 13 yr old niece last night(she will be 14 in a month). She mentioned not having a boyfriend anymore and I asked her how can she have a boyfriend at 13, and what do they do. her answer, laughing and telling me going to the movies with friends. She is raised in a very conservative/Southern Babtist house and I'm incredibly surprised that my bro and sis in law would even allow it. Anyway, I think 10 years ago even it would be more innocent, but with kids "these days', you never know. Kids are having sex of all sorts at a young age. Education is the key. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljs Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Maybe he's just horny? Horomones are crazy at that age. that I understand...and my first understanding of that was walking into my lil bro's bedroom when he was 13 and seeing a half naked pic of Brittany Spears on his ceiling, right above his bed.:doh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WVUforREDSKINS Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Ok, if so than please school me on how at 13 dating 3 different girls is a good thing for someone that age?? I'm dying to hear this one. Because at 13 you aren't dating. Its more or less just a girl you like. I was the same way. Its common Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skins PR Posted May 30, 2009 Author Share Posted May 30, 2009 Because at 13 you aren't dating. Its more or less just a girl you like. I was the same way. Its common What's the difference between dating and just a girl that you like? He was hanging out with her tonight... Saw the picture on her Facebook profile today. Nice pic of her going butt-to-butt with some other 7th grade girl. That thread about teen sex isn't making me feel any better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
royallypwned Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 What's the difference between dating and just a girl that you like? He was hanging out with her tonight...Saw the picture on her Facebook profile today. Nice pic of her going butt-to-butt with some other 7th grade girl. That thread about teen sex isn't making me feel any better. I hate what facebook has become. It should have never branched out of the college years. I was in the thick of college when facebook became well known and then, it was ONLY for college kids. And now, everybody and their mom can have one. **** letting middle school kids have facebook, they have myspace. The early days of facebook were the best. :doh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ned Flanders Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 When I was in 5th grade, I used to have other kids (mostly girls) over my house and we'd watch pornos and play strip go fish. THAT WAS 5TH GRADE in the 80's. Deep inside Annie Sprinkles - I'll never forget it. I had a single mother who worked 6:30am-6:30pm, and an older brother who was 6 years older, and not the best influence. Basically a party house. So if I were you, I'd be a little concerned. But really, there's nothing you can do about it but offer your best advice. I turned out OK, but I also had a kid when I was 18 - definitely wasn't ready for that. Like others have said: At least he likes girls! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubble Screen Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I hate what facebook has become. It should have never branched out of the college years. I was in the thick of college when facebook became well known and then, it was ONLY for college kids. And now, everybody and their mom can have one. **** letting middle school kids have facebook, they have myspace. The early days of facebook were the best. :doh: I think you're supposed to be 14 to even have a Facebook account. So that should rule out most middle schoolers. But yeah, I know no one can prevent them from having one. Facebook is stupid, anyway. Never understood why people want everyone to know everything there is to know about their personal lives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
diesel22 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 No reason to worry about someone behaving that way unless they are in their early 30's Edit} MID 30's :evilg: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rdsknbill Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I think that you are making alot about nothing. If he is "going to the movies with friends" then that is probably exactly what it is. Going to a movie with friends. No strings, no commitments, just going out to hang out. GF's are more of a status thing at that age. My son is 18 now. I never had any worries about him when he was that age. Girl here, girl there. Never anything resembling serious. Now he is in a pretty serious relationship, BUT he is heading off to college? and not to the same school as her? stay tuned Now, I will admit that I am a hypocrite when it comes to my daughter. I have to meet the kid, talk to his parents, and determine where they are going, how they are getting there, and who is bringing them home. Dem's da rules. She doesn't like them, she doesn't have to go anywhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevenaa Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I'd make sure he understands how a man should treat a woman. At his age this is probably harmless, but the most harmless of things can turn into destructive habits. As you are mentoring him, this is a good opportunity to make sure he understands that being a good partner and sticking around is worthy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twa Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I'd make sure he understands how a man should treat a woman. At his age this is probably harmless, but the most harmless of things can turn into destructive habits. As you are mentoring him, this is a good opportunity to make sure he understands that being a good partner and sticking around is worthy. I agree, a talk on responsibility and consequences is a good idea,especially in the kid's situation ,and coming from a mentor. All in all it seems like no big deal though,I fell in love quite a bit back then with several at at time....my son took it to new heights:silly:,which worried me a bit,but he did understand responsible behavior and not hurting others. Let the boy enjoy being a boy,but make sure he knows the the consequences of foolishness is no longer being a boy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoSkins561 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I think it's naive to think he isn't trying to hit a home run. There isn't a man on ES that wasn't thinking about tail when they were 13, very few were actually getting some. The OP's 13 year old seems to be attracting the ladies, eventually the dirty little girl is going to catch his interest if she hasn't already and it's on. I would say supervision is key. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsNumberOne Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 What's the difference between dating and just a girl that you like? He was hanging out with her tonight...Saw the picture on her Facebook profile today. Nice pic of her going butt-to-butt with some other 7th grade girl. That thread about teen sex isn't making me feel any better. Just an observation, but as you've given more information the thread has definitely taken a more relevant turn. In general, going from "boyfriend/girlfriend" at that age can be completely normal. As others have stated, it's often in "how mature" or "how old" the kids think they are. Unfortunately you have a lot of kids who look at adults and think that they should be acting older (for a variety of reasons). There are other reasons for the behaviors we generally don't accept as correct for kids at that age as well. So having 3 girlfriends over 3 weeks isn't necessarily a big deal, but it's a case-by-case basis. BigMike and GoSkins, in my opinion, are giving you great advice. I don't know GoSkins background, but BigMike is talking from direct experience as it is. It sounds like he got it straight from his kid that he's not going that far. That's probably the only way to be sure (as long as you read him right and he's telling the truth). It seems like you've got to make that evaluation somehow - how far is he going or planning on going. After that, supervision is key - and asking how to tell him to stop is different from asking if you're worried. Given his sister's situation, I suppose I'd be worried - but I don't know anything about the kid. Some kids are much more shy than their siblings, and a lot of kids (as stated repeatedly here) "date" because it's the thing to do and for no other reason. There are a lot of variables in that equation which only get answered with specific knowledge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimboDaMan Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Two things: 1. How sure are you that he's really not getting some action from these girls, or at least not trying to (which would be one explanation for hopping from one to the next so fast)? Kids are great, but some of them can be genuinely nice kids AND incredibly good liars. The thing with the older sister is worrisome, no way could he be oblivious to that and a lot might depend on how that situation was handled in the family. 2. If its just a crush, or a "coolness" thing, find out how the girls are taking things also. If they're on to the next boy themselves then fine. Just be careful if he's hurting these girls by telling them how much he loves them and then dumping them 48 hours later. Not the end of the world, but with his lack of experience he might being a jerk and not even realize it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skins PR Posted May 30, 2009 Author Share Posted May 30, 2009 How sure are you that he's really not getting some action from these girls Pretty sure... I mean I'm obviously not around him 100% of the time. He's 13 and a half so he's almost certainly :jerk: but I don't think he's :hump: or even doing much, if any :smooch:. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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