frostyj Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Main question is do you think there is an issue if the difference is 10 plus years? I'm 33 an have an ex of 11 years.(met when I was 20) 3 yrs younger(shhh). Then had a GF for about 2 yrs(rebound??) who was 4 yrs older. One yr off from any relationship. Now I am hanging out with someone, nothing serious but seems it could go that way. She is 22, and from Ukraine. The other were half French and British, guess I just don't like Americans, which I am straight up. She seems more mature than either for her age and we get along like there is no ten yrs+ difference. Have known each other for 5-6 months and been hanging out for about 4-5 weeks. My gut says I should go along with it, where ever it takes me. BTW not just in it for.... could have already but we talked about it, an we both want to just see where it goes with out that.(am i getting old?? lol) What does anyone else think? Sorry to be long winded. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IbleedBnG83 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Skingsgirl and TK should be a good couple to talk to... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IONTOP Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 your age/2 + 7 = okay age range.... 33/2 = 16.5+7 = 23.5 Sorry... It didn't pass the test... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chipwhich Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Uhh she is from the Ukraine and looking for citizenship. If thats your cup of tea, have fun, but don't be a fool and think she is in it for true love. Lots of "russians" in america now looking for a ticket. But I am sure you will think its love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TK Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 If you're happy, you're happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IbleedBnG83 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Of course, it all depends where the two people are in their life. She is at the age where people start to grow up more into the adult they become. Nothing wrong with taking it easy and seeing how things go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosher Ham Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 My wife is 8 years younger than I am, and the girl I dated before her was 12 years younger than I was. I dont see how it is really that big of a deal once a girl hits her 20's. It's all about compatability and communication. Good Luck Bro, and do what your heart tells you in this case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stupidmorals Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 your age/2 + 7 = okay age range....33/2 = 16.5+7 = 23.5 Sorry... It didn't pass the test... ^What he said... You'll have to wait another three years for this to not be creepy. But she's well within my range, if you want to just send her over here... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frostyj Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 Uhh she is from the Ukraine and looking for citizenship. If thats your cup of tea, have fun, but don't be a fool and think she is in it for true love.Lots of "russians" in america now looking for a ticket. But I am sure you will think its love. I see where your getting at, but it doesn't seem the case at all. Plus she has been here for 2 years, so I would think if that was the case, she would have found something. Unless she turns out to be crazy!! Good to see that a lot seem to think age is not an issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frostyj Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 your age/2 + 7 = okay age range....33/2 = 16.5+7 = 23.5 Sorry... It didn't pass the test... Sorry, but just because of your age and dude below who agreed. 10 yrs yournger to ya'll is just straight wrong and jail. Will be a bit different in ten years for ya'll. Maybe not, but most likely. Thanks for the input, will add it to my findings anyways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chipwhich Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I see where your getting at, but it doesn't seem the case at all. Good to see that a lot seem to think age is not an issue. I am sure it doesn't seem that way. My cousin who is in his 40's doesn't feel that way either. It is what it is, go into it with realistic understanding. How many american 22 year olds want someone 10 years older? Typically it's a way to get something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Springfield Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I think she's too young. Plus she's from the Ukraine... You should be the age that you are looking for children, in most cases. A woman who is 22 years old isn't going to give you that, in most cases. It just wouldn't seem right if I were you age in your shoes. Who knows though, I've been known to be wrong a time or two. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frostyj Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 I am sure it doesn't seem that way. My cousin who is in his 40's doesn't feel that way either.It is what it is, go into it with realistic understanding. How many american 22 year olds want someone 10 years older? Typically it's a way to get something. Thats why I'm asking!! But I have been abroad to quite a few countries and most ppl overseas are more mature than we are!!!! I do have a 4 yr old, so for me at least now kids are not an issue. She is on the move for that either, but she doesn't mind I have one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chipwhich Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Thats why I'm asking!! But I have been abroad to quite a few countries and most ppl overseas are more mature than we are!!!!I do have a 4 yr old, so for me at least now kids are not an issue. She is on the move for that either, but she doesn't mind I have one. Of course she doesn't mind you have kids. She is perfect. Get it? She wants to hook up for citizenship. My cousin in his forties hooked up with a 21 year old. You can ignore the truth, or have fun with it. It's about staying in the U.S. Thats the bottom line. But I am sure your relationship is "different". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosher Ham Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 But he is just dating the young lady right now. Marriage has nothing to do with the question. She can't stay here just because they are dating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chipwhich Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 But he is just dating the young lady right now. Marriage has nothing to do with the question. She can't stay here just because they are dating. But she and he are willing to go with it wherever it goes. It's not rocket science. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frostyj Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 Of course she doesn't mind you have kids. She is perfect. Get it? She wants to hook up for citizenship.My cousin in his forties hooked up with a 21 year old. You can ignore the truth, or have fun with it. It's about staying in the U.S. Thats the bottom line. But I am sure your relationship is "different". lol, I understand where you are going!! I'm still just having fun like the poster below you said. But you never know where fun may take you. I have thought about the whole Citizenship thing. "what have you done for me lately Eddie!!" Frankly I'm not worried about that, it the age issue. Everyone has different reasons for getting married even if they never come out. An that is not even a topic at this point in tyme. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frostyj Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 But she and he are willing to go with it wherever it goes. It's not rocket science. Well, if her cards expired it would probably be a big fun good bye weekend. Not getting married again for a reason like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosher Ham Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 But she and he are willing to go with it wherever it goes. It's not rocket science. It's been 5 weeks and they haven't even...you know. I can't imagine that he is ready to jump the broom already. I sure hope not anyway. For just dating at this point...Why the hell not. I know there are 19 year old women that I could date if I was a single man, I wouldn't be interested, but I know that I could. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ldysknzfn1 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Don't ask me this question..my hubby's 25 years older than me. I may be a bit biased. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destructis Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Just something to be careful about. On another message board I frequent, a guy married a woman from another country and as soon as she got her citizenship, she left him. http://simhq.com/forum/ubbthreads.php/topics/2700440/My_wife_just_left_me_seriously.html#Post2700440 I don't know that this will happen to you, but you need to go in with your eyes open. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G-Prime Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Well my last serious girlfriend was 22.. I'm 33, my wife before her was a year younger than me.. I'm currently dating 20, 22, 23 and 25 year old. It depends on maturity of the person. In my case, the 20 year old I'm dating, we have nothing in common except sex. That's fine, we're ok with that and we both know we're probably never going to be anything more that F buddies.. The 22 year old, is very old fashioned like me.. We share the same political views although she's a bit more idealistic than I am, she's a party girl though, and isn't going to be anyone I settle down with, but I enjoy talking with her. The 23 year old, has a mess of problems and crap just seems to keep happening to her.. I take her out every once in awhile and hit it on occasion, but she's a whirling dervish of drama.. The 25 year old, is very very sweet, and cares about a lot, which is the exact opposite of me, but I really like that about her. She's got a quick whit and is funny as hell, just like me. We share a lot of the same social likes and dislikes. If I ever decided to settle down with any of them, it would be here.. Don't think it's because of her age, just because of who she is. She could be 21 and I'd still dig her. The point is, understand the situation, think it out.. The last serious girlfriend I have who was 22, hurt me badly, but it was more my fault that anything, because I couldn't see the forest through the trees.. I got swept up and should of stopped to consider exactly what was going on and where I thought things would go with her. Recent experience teaches me that age IS just a number, but sometimes, it's not.. Judge the person, not the age. Lastly is she in Ukraine or is she from there? If she's not here how are you "hanging out"? And no talking online doesn't count as hanging out.. Be careful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xameil Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Sorry, but just because of your age and dude below who agreed. 10 yrs yournger to ya'll is just straight wrong and jail. Will be a bit different in ten years for ya'll. Maybe not, but most likely. Thanks for the input, will add it to my findings anyways. lol the formula worked for me and my gf I'm 35 she'll be 25 next week. 22 is a bit young. Its good for a shirt term thing...but someone at 22 generally (there are some exceptions) is in a state of change into what they will be like as an adult...so things change dramatically. My policy was always 25 is the lowest limit...I made an exception for my gf because she acted older then her age. But whatever works for you..I wouldn't expect the long term with her tho. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PleaseBlitz Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 The rule is half your age plus 7. If you are 33, then (33/2 = 16.5 + 7 = 23.5). 23 is the minimum age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skinz4Life12 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 i thought the minimum age was 18? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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