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AJWatson3

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My grandmother always said "theres something wrong with a man that doesn't like sports."

Sounds strange to me that she can't understand your love for football. Sounds more like what freak said. Ask her if she feels 2nd to football. If yes then I'm sure you guys can work it out. If it is football that irks her so much then it probably isn't going to work out. :2cents:

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My :2cents:

Fantasy Football. Start a league and get her interested in it. It will allow her into a bit of her life, and if she is competitive, she will join.

Now, if she doesn't comprimise, don't let the door hit her in the a$$ on the way out :laugh:

BTW, you posted this question on a Skins board? I think you already know the answer you're looking for ;)

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I haven't been in your situation...

but screw it man, i'm a believer that in a relationship to work, you have to support your partners hobbies and interests, even if you don't understand them. that's not to say she has to fake her enthusiasm and try to watch football every sunday...Even if she didn't really care about football she could still just go do her own thing sunday afternoon while you watched football...you're right, 3 hours out of a week for 16 (hopefully more this year :) ) sundays isn't much to ask for. and if she can't voice why she doesn't like football then there are some deeper issues there that she doesn't want to admit to.

Hey AJ,

Clearly, the problem here is that she feels threatened by your interest in football. The fact that it is football and not underwater basketweaving means nothing. You can't even compare it to her photography, because that's not the problem, having a hobby. Women speak in code, and then they make the men try and understand them. She might be trying to tell you that she wants more attention.

In other words, she wants you to be as interested in her as you are about football. In this case, my advice would be as follows:

ding ding ding.... we have a pair of winners!

spiff and freak nailed it (the question, not your girlfriend :)). maybe a compromise? take her shopping or whatever she wants to do, but insist that you're either home in time for the game or that you hit a sports bar for a long lunch. there is room for both footballphobic women and football as long as each side can give a little without losing all.

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Face it, you got one of those females that thinks that when she has a man, she must change him to what she wants her man to be like

Too many females have that attitude amd they are the ones who end up all alone because they think they have this God given right to change a man that so many females have

One other possbility, that she dated a football player in the past and the guy hurt her in some way, so that she had to deeply seeded dislike of anything to do with the sport

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Sorry to hear that. Fortunately for me, my wife is a huge Buckeye fan and I have converted her into a Redskins fan. She keeps talking about going to the Broncos game out here(her 1st NFL/Skins game). She knows from now until early Feb., my weekends are pretty much booked. I make it up to her the other 7 months of the year.

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The problem I see is that she is obsessed over hating football. My wife isn't a football fan, but she doesn't have a problem with me watching. I don't force football on her and she knows to leave me alone when I'm watching.

I'd say stick with the Skins and find a girl that either likes football or doesn't have a problem if you do.

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My girlfriend HATES football. She can't even talk about it (or listen to me talk about it) without getting incredibly angry. It's honest-to-god become a serious strain on our relationship as the season starts up. She thinks I am addicted to football (obsessed was the term she used) and that it is a horrible sport. Of course she can't explain why she doesn't like football, and has given little effort to understand the greatest sport ever.

I don't get it. We've been going out for about a month and it seems to be bothering her more and more. I don't see what's so wrong with budgeting 3 hours a week for 1/2 a year towards something you love doing. I try to explain it that way and put it in a context that she could comprehend and she still refuses to budge in her disgust of it. She loves photography. I asked her if she was only able to take photos and develop them for 3 hours a week, for half the year, what would she do when given the opportunity? And wouldn't she be looking forward to taking photos when the opportunity is near? She says they aren't even similar situations.

I don't get it.

Has anyone been in this situation before and how long was it until your love for the Redskins and football ended your relationship?

If she is this unflexible so early in, she should be shown the door!! :D

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If she can't find it in her heart to allow you to watch a football game once a week, then her dislike of football is the least of her problems. Honestly. If she's a girl that can't allow you to do things that she doesn't like, you'll never be happy. Relationships are about compromise....Except when it comes to the 'Skins.

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Sounds like the problem runs deeper than football, I've been through the exact same thing with 3 different women, finally I found the one who lets me be me, she doesn't care for football but she makes an effort, she wants my attention but she accepts that I have other intrests.

Be strong, give in when you have to, but never give in when it come to the Skins.

Good Luck.

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One of the first things I noticed about my wife when we were dating was that she never gave me grief over any choices I made - she let me be who I was. She still does. That makes her damn near the coolest woman in America.

Don't walk. Run. Because I've seen many a guy who marries a beautiful woman who ends up wanting to control what they do - how they dress, what they do with their money, how they speak, how they spend their time - to me thats not love. Letting your mate do what makes them happy, hell, maybe even joining you in an interest, thats love. My wife is absolutely ambivalent about the whole Redskins thing. But she knows its important to me, and she never makes me feel bad for having something besides her I'm passionate about. Find someone like that.

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I would agree that the problem runs deeper than football. Now I know this is very bad, but if at all possible, show her the results of this thread and tell us her reaction.

Thats an intriguing idea....

Although, if she's like most women, you show her this thread, and you won't have to worry about it, she'll make the decision for you :)

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They way I see it, if she isn't going to let you watch football without giving you crap, find another girl.

My wife can't stand football. She doesn't get angry when I talk to her about it and every once in awhile she will surprise me by recognizing a player.

I've known her for 8 years, been married a little over 3. When we 1st got together I made sure from the very start I was going to do the things I liked doing, and football all day on Sunday ones one. I'm not the type that won't compromise, but she understands how important football is to me. Heck, she even went as far changing her work schedule to where she works Sunday's and Monday nights, how sweet is that!!!

If she is not going to support the things you enjoy and support you, then it's time to find somebody that will. Football Sunday's are a thing to look forward to, not getting in arguments with the woman.

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I’ve been married for 1 month now. We have been together for 3yrs and lived together for 2 years. She does not like football all that much. However she understands that I love football and I love my Redskins. I got Sunday NFL Ticket and on Sundays it is me and the NFL. She understands that our relationship is different during football season. I do think that she is coming around. In fact she is flying with me to Denver to watch the Skins kick some Bronco Butt and she is even going to wear a pig nose. If she cant learn to love the Skins you might want to reconsider. We're here for you, buddy.

:grouphug:

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