AJWatson3 Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 My girlfriend HATES football. She can't even talk about it (or listen to me talk about it) without getting incredibly angry. It's honest-to-god become a serious strain on our relationship as the season starts up. She thinks I am addicted to football (obsessed was the term she used) and that it is a horrible sport. Of course she can't explain why she doesn't like football, and has given little effort to understand the greatest sport ever. I don't get it. We've been going out for about a month and it seems to be bothering her more and more. I don't see what's so wrong with budgeting 3 hours a week for 1/2 a year towards something you love doing. I try to explain it that way and put it in a context that she could comprehend and she still refuses to budge in her disgust of it. She loves photography. I asked her if she was only able to take photos and develop them for 3 hours a week, for half the year, what would she do when given the opportunity? And wouldn't she be looking forward to taking photos when the opportunity is near? She says they aren't even similar situations. I don't get it. Has anyone been in this situation before and how long was it until your love for the Redskins and football ended your relationship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaceman Spiff Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 I haven't been in your situation... but screw it man, i'm a believer that in a relationship to work, you have to support your partners hobbies and interests, even if you don't understand them. that's not to say she has to fake her enthusiasm and try to watch football every sunday...Even if she didn't really care about football she could still just go do her own thing sunday afternoon while you watched football...you're right, 3 hours out of a week for 16 (hopefully more this year ) sundays isn't much to ask for. and if she can't voice why she doesn't like football then there are some deeper issues there that she doesn't want to admit to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brown 43 Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 My wife doesn't like football either, but she lets me watch without getting grumpy. If she lets you watch, fine, if she doesn't dump her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueTalon Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 You're trying to reason with a bubbling cauldren of estrogen. Give it up. And you may as well dump her now and get it over with. You've spent a whole month going out with her, big deal. Hello, it's the beginning of the season! Not the preaseason, the real season. And you've spent the entire preseason with her. You've already seen how it's going to go. Is that what you want? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJWatson3 Posted September 6, 2005 Author Share Posted September 6, 2005 also, in an effort to see if she's willing to try and put up with my football JONES, i've invited her to come with me on opening day against Chicago. i think maybe being there and seeing the excitement, a different take on the game, will help... i am terrified that she will ruin the whole experience though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyingtiger1013 Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Only a month? Cut your financial losses and ditch her. If she is that uptight now, don't bother investing anymore time, money, or effort into her. Let her know she can be replaced with a DVD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaceman Spiff Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 also, in an effort to see if she's willing to try and put up with my football JONES, i've invited her to come with me on opening day against Chicago.i think maybe being there and seeing the excitement, a different take on the game, will help... i am terrified that she will ruin the whole experience though... Not wise dude, it'll totally ruin it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RDSKNfaithfull Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Take her to a game and make sure you tailgate she will come around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsD Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Forget the football aspects if she is trying to tear you away from something you love THAT IS A SERIOUS WARNING SIGN! RUN....NOW! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phat Hog Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Hot potato man, hot potato... Lots of clam in the ocean dude! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueTalon Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 also, in an effort to see if she's willing to try and put up with my football JONES, i've invited her to come with me on opening day against Chicago.i think maybe being there and seeing the excitement, a different take on the game, will help... i am terrified that she will ruin the whole experience though... Make sure she has cab money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsHokieFan Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 For me, no brainer Only a month? Eh, the emotional ties can't be that great yet She'd be gone, the Redskins were my first love and always come back every year Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iheartskins Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Well, here's how I see things. If you are with someone who can't understand the passions in your life, then you and that person aren't meant for each other and/or the other person is pretty selfish. (This is, of course, ignoring the possibility that you are also obsessed with something more creepy in which case one would be justified to object to the passion in question. For purposes of this discussion, let's assume that being obsessed with the 'Skins is not among the more questionable passions--and to be honest, that's how I feel myself.) Getting back to what I said initially, if your gf can't understand what you love in life, then she can't really understand you. End of story. Get rid of her. Having to change for someone (e.g., quitting smoking, etc.) is one thing, but defying a life long passion (and I know that this describes how you feel AJ given how much you know about football, the draft, and the fact that you actually played) is a whole 'nother ballgame (no pun intended). Why sacrifice yourself for her? That really sums it up. What's more important to you? Once you've answered that question, you should be well on your way to a "right" answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamingwolf Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Make sure she has cab money. thats very good advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeorama Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 If she's like really really hot and really really good... who needs the Redskins... :paranoid: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKINS@THEGOALLINE Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 I'd definately punt! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phat Hog Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 If she's like really really hot and really really good... who needs the Redskins... :paranoid: :yikes: :stfu: :whippin: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freakofthesouth Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Hey AJ, Clearly, the problem here is that she feels threatened by your interest in football. The fact that it is football and not underwater basketweaving means nothing. You can't even compare it to her photography, because that's not the problem, having a hobby. Women speak in code, and then they make the men try and understand them. She might be trying to tell you that she wants more attention. In other words, she wants you to be as interested in her as you are about football. In this case, my advice would be as follows: Scenario #1: Do what you can to show her that she is just as important to you as football, if not more. Offer to do some type of event w/ her during a game (I know; this is a tough decision to make, but we've all been there). When you're on Extremeskins and she's around, make it seem less important; make her the focus. And that doesn't that you should show her Bang's latest cartoon, regardless of how funny you think it may be. Clearly shift the focus to her whilst watching a game or browsing the FedEx Field...uh..I mean The Stadium threads. If you are doing this effectively, she will become increasingly more interested in football, because she will want to know you more. Scenario # 2: Here's my problem w/ what you're telling me: she is having problems w/ you when you guys have only been together for one month? The first month of dating should be about courting and that kinda sh*t. Maybe you guys were friends beforehand? Regardless, this is a big red flag in my book. What her behavior shows is a significant insecurity she has in relationships. Here it is, one month in, and she already wants to change you. My advice: don't do it. If you love football, then love football. If you love the Redskins, then love the Redskins. ASSERT YOURSELF. Too many times I have seen my buddies go down these paths where they start to change the person that they are for a woman. The woman wants to control their desires and passions. It's natural for humans to do this, but don't let them do it to you. Don't compromise yourself. The stronger your backbone, the more your partner will respect your differences, and embrace them. That's how real relationships are formed. And if she has a problem w/ it, show her the door. Then, two things will happen: she will either take off and find someone else to control, in which case you didn't need her anyways, or she will see what a strong person you are, and allow you to be yourself. You'll know this way, too. --- It really comes down to what you really want to be happy. Don't let the sex make that decision for you...truly understand and know yourself, and you will be able to see others intentions as well. When you feel as if you've done this, be as objective as you can about the future of this relationship. But for the record? I'll never give up the Redskins for a girl. Cheers, and good luck my brotha. edit: just to add on, if you bend on this w/ her, after only a month, this is only the begining of her tranformation of you. And also, I saw that you invited her to the game; I think this is a bad idea... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huly Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 If it has only been a month I would stay with football. A relationship is built on working together. She should atleast give it a try and if she is not willing to give football a try what else will she complain about or not give a try. Just a girls two sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betty32 Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Just wanted to add my opinion, from a female.....Lose her. Now. A lot of good points have been made about compromise and selfishness. There's a LOT of female Skins/football fans out there, trust me on this one! And 3 1/2 hours a week? That's nothing! I've been playing fantasy football for 10 years or so, and I'm completely addicted - Skins first and foremost, have been my whole life. But if I'm not at the game, I'm watching....all of them....ALL day/evening. Tell her to go to the mall and shop, or whatever it is "normal" chicks do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkinsNut73 Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Preparing sequence to launch... 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 ...Launched! Bring on the Redskins! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlexRS Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 If you cannot communicate properly and settle this dispute, I have to say chances of having a good relationship with that girl are pretty small. Also, you say you've been dating for a month. This means she never even experienced you during the football season. Which means her football problems came from somewhere else. You might wanna sit down with her and investigate it. It really sounds like the girl has problems that manifested themselves through hate of football. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheREALJBird Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 football man, this relationship is merely a month, and all girls should like football.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thito_da_skins_fan Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Only 3 hours a week? She should consider herself lucky. I'd take Saturday (college football), Sunday (NFL football), and Monday Night. If she doesn't like it, do I really give a ****? It's been one month. Anyway, did you crush yet? I think we all know the end of the story, but we don't really know anything else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJWatson3 Posted September 6, 2005 Author Share Posted September 6, 2005 just a note: i'll never stop watching footall or quit loving the Skins. NOT AN OPTION. and i too watch football every chance i get.... i can give up the occasional saturday, but no NFL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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